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You never get a second chance to make a first impression. That’s why making sure you come across as the likeable, charming and delightful person you are is so important during an initial meeting, especially when the face-to-face is with the parents of the guy or gal you’re dating!
While meeting ma and pa can certainly be intimidating, Rachel Seliger, Community Manager for JDate.com, has five sure-fire tips to guarantee that a meeting with the parental units goes as smoothly as possible. Here's what Rachel told us.
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1. Give it a Hot Second: My current boyfriend (who I met on JDate) introduced me to his parents on the THIRD DATE. He’s lucky he’s so sweet and that his parents are so great, or it might have been a major red flag! Give your newfound love a hot second before you schedule a brunch with mom, dad, grandma or any other member of the family you haven’t seen since Independence Day. In fact, you should even go one step further and officially have the “Are we exclusive?” talk before introducing your new partner to any family members.
2. Give Adequate Prep Time: While it’s best to wait until you’ve had “the talk” to meet the parents, you still need to actually tell the person you’re dating that you’re planning a meet-and-greet. Did I mention that when I met my boyfriend’s parents, he didn’t tell me where we were going? He said it was a “surprise.” That was the understatement of the year! Give your honey time to prepare for the meeting, so they can think about what to say, how to dress and all those important factors.
3. Dress for Success: Luckily I never dress ultra-casual (my go-to “casual” outfit is skinny pants, a silky blouse and statement jewelry), so when I unexpectedly found myself at my boyfriend’s parents’ house on a Saturday afternoon, I was ready! When dressing for a first date with the parents, you want to dress to fit in, but still show your true personality. Wear something that not only makes you comfortable, but confident as well. The more confident you feel, the less nerve-racking meeting the parents will feel. And it goes without saying that you should NOT wear something that’s revealing or suggestive.
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