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The 4 Hottest Bedroom Trends

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The 4 Hottest Bedroom Trends
Spice up your sex life today! See how herbs, pillows and skype can whet your sexual appetite.

By GalTime.com

Bored in the bedroom? Well, why not make 2012 your year to break out of your rut and try something new?

Certified sex educator Jaiya, co-author of the book, Red Hot Touch: A Head To Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms, offers up some hot trends for the bedroom...and beyond.

The 4 Hottest Bedroom Trends
1. Aphrodisiacs (Foods, Spices and Herbs)
They're ancient, but many couples are just beginning to discover how much they can spice things up in the bedroom. These may sound weird, but it's fun to play with the following: Deer Antler, Cistanche, Epimedium (Horny Goat Weed) and Schizandra (was used by Concubines for beauty and sexual vigor). Spend time in the kitchen together preparing an aphrodisiac meal and then all night feeding it to each other! These herbs help boost libido and support your sexual health and vitality.

Related: Turn Your Love Life Upside Down with this Pineapple Recipe

2. Pillows
Yes, pillows. They help you put a new angle on sex. My motto: Flat Sex is out. Angled sex is in. We've all heard about spicing things up with sexual positions. But what's been left out are pillows. Even the Kama Sutra positions were meant to be done with pillows. Try simply folding a pillow and placing under your butt. This puts and angle on your pelvis that allows for more contact with your juicy bits.

3. Threesomes
This one is a little risque but it definitely is a trend. I get more and more questions about how couples might have a fun night with third. Here's how it works. You may already have someone in mind or you can find people interested on internet sites for swingers. When it comes to threesomes it's all about the approach.

4. Skype Sex
The days of virtual reality sex are getting closer and closer. Skype can be used like a form of phone sex, only you can actually see each other. It's like virtual mutual play. Or you can set us a scene where you tell your lover everything you want them to do. You get to be the voyeur. Or you could be he personal Webcam girl and he gets to call the shots.

Sound interesting? Well, now it's time to get your partner on board. Of course that could be easier said then done--especially if it's been a while since you tried something new.

"Introducing something new into your sex life can be challenging, but very rewarding." says Jaiya. "The majority of couples I work with are afraid to tell their partner about something that they really want to do. What's surprising is that they usually want the same thing but just aren't talking about it."

Related: Top 5 Sexual Faux Pas

One idea? Just show them this article--or one like it--to gauge how far they're willing to go.

"'Hey, I saw this article today talking about new trends in sex, what do you think about this?'" suggest Jaiya. "Your partner will reveal how they feel by their reaction. They may say 'I would never have a threesome, but boy, Skype Sex sounds fun.' Then you can dive in and see if they want to try it with you."

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