By JL Watkins, The GalTime Guy
I’ve gotten myself into quite a situation here. How do I write an article about “things women do that annoy their partners” without getting in trouble with my wife? Well, I’ll tell you how: I’m going to play it safe.
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This is one of those topics that you’ll occasionally see written on websites or in magazines, intended to be used as a rallying cry for other guys. “This is why women are so annoying!” But since I’m writing this for the opposite gender, I’m going to throw out a few of the more honest, and general examples, and give you an idea of why it might irritate the man in your life.
Ladies, you can call it nesting or decorating, or whatever you want, but there’s a point where we just stop caring. At first, it’s exciting to be picking out fabrics and paint colors as a couple, but eventually you man will reach his limit. For me, it was when the number of extraneous throw pillows in our apartment reached critical mass, leaving few precious spots to sit or lie down without disturbing up the carefully managed furniture pillow ecosystem.
The excitement wears off for most men when they realize that while they’re expected to be part of the home decorating decisions, they aren’t making any actual decision. Giving a man a choice between a red flower throw pillow and a green flower throw pillow isn’t much of a choice if we don’t want flowers all over the place.
We’re just helping you narrow down the things that you like. It’s not that we don’t care. I think there just comes a point where we don’t care as much.
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Of course, this is where problems typically arise. Men look at the home objects at their base level. Your partner looks at that same pillow in a completely different way. To me, it’s just a pillow. To my wife it’s the pillow that someone will gaze upon when first entering our home. It ties-in the colors in the matching armchair in the corner of the room to the rug by the coffee table. She sees it as a validation of her sense of style, while I see it as just a comfy place to rest my head while watching Sons of Anarchy.
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Everyone makes snap judgments, sizes up the competition, or at some point, straight-up makes fun of someone else. It’s all part of being human. But there’s sometimes a certain way women do those things, regarding other women, that’s worth noting. You think her make-up is trashy. You don’t think she should be wearing open-toed shoes with that dress. You don’t think she should be with that guy.
I don’t even think it’s mean spirited, though it certainly is sometimes. I think there’s a weird dynamic that gets handed down from mothers to daughters, a rivalry between sisters, or schoolyard taunting that sets the tone for how women interact with each other throughout life.