- Exercise. It may seem like the last thing you want to do, but it's the best thing for you. Exercise gets your feel-good endorphins going. Dedicate an hour a day to walking, riding a bike or lifting weights.
- Eat right. Your body may be craving comfort foods but choosing functional foods is the smarter option. Stick to fruits, vegetables and lean proteins to provide you healthy fuel. Fish and nuts are packed with Omega-3s which is good for the brain. If your brain's thinking straight, you might begin to see things a little clearer with your heart.
- Educate yourself. Take this time to learn more about yourself. Start a journal and write about your feelings. Read Pedra Chodron's self-help books or "non self-help" self-help books, such as Karen Salmansohn's The Bounce Back Book. As much as you may think you are the ONLY one to be going through this, the reality is you are not alone. There's a book for just about every situation and if your's is that unique - maybe your journal will become a best selling book one day.
- Enlighten yourself. Meditation and yoga have shown tremendous healing effects on the terminally ill, crippled and disabled. It also works wonders for the broken hearted. These practices can teach you how to calm your mind and silence the chatter of your own thoughts. Anxiety and depression can also be reduced by a daily practice.
- Expect. Expect things to get better, because they will. The pain will change overtime. It may not ever go away completely. Depending on how you decide to treat yourself as you recover, you could be left with a nasty scar that shines like a battle wound or you could be left with a victory mark of the war that you won. Be kind to yourself during your rehabilitation.
- Engage. Reach out for family, friends or trusted professionals who can assist you. Avoid isolating yourself from the world. People do care about you. Make it a point to call, email or text at least one person every morning, even if it's just to say hello. Keep your heartstrings connected to your support system. You need them right now and they need you, too.
Contributed by Kimberly James, MatchMaster & Dating Expert, www.findyourplusone.com
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