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Top ten reasons to build an online dating profile and find your plus one.

There are various life factors that may lead you to turning to the Internet to Find Your Plus One. Perhaps you live in a small town with limited options. Perhaps you are new to town and don't know that many people. Maybe your career and work hours make it improbable to find someone during your free time.

Online dating is a great resource to help find a companion for an event, a date or for life.

1) The Internet is OPEN - 24 Hours a Day/7 Days a Week!

You can begin your dating search anywhere you have Internet access. Be it if you are sitting on the sofa at home, sitting behind your desk at work (although your employer would probably much rather have you working on work than your love life), or if you are searching from your mobile phone while on the train or waiting for an appointment. No matter where you are, you can get connected as long as you are connected to the Internet.

If you are on the go or stuck behind a desk for twelve hours a day, you can now become virtually available even if you are really aren't. Your online profile and settings is your social face. Your profile is out there mixing and mingling on your behalf, while you tend to your regular day to day needs. When you have the time, you can quickly check your mobile or receive an email notification to find out if someone is interesting in talking to you.

2) Multiple First Impressions!

In life, we truly only get one first impression. That moment when you first meet someone tends is the first time. The great thing about online dating is you have an opportunity to make multiple first impressions. As you become more familiar with navigating the web site and seeing other people's profiles, you can continually update your own profile. As your life evolves, you can make note of that on your page, also.

Perhaps when you first built your profile, your initial interests were hiking, traveling and bird watching. Your profile matches would most likely connect you to someone in common. But then a month later, your interests expand and now you update it to include your new hobby of mountain biking. Your dating pool has just expanded again, allowing you to make more connections with people, and even possibly be reintroduced to previous matches.

Online dating allows you the opportunity to continually update and present your best and most relevant self at that specific time in your life. And as your interests or needs change, you can reflect that through your profile, attracting people of similar compatibility.

3) Pre-Date Qualification!

Hey, it works in the finance world, why shouldn't it work in the dating arena, too? Online dating allows you the opportunity to get to know someone before meeting them. Through email, phone calls and tweets, you can get to know someone a bit before that face to face interaction.

Let's say you've made a connection and begin an email dialogue with this person. Through a series of emails, you can each feel the other out. Hopefully, there is a banter and a good exchange or maybe the conversation will be left flat. If there doesn't seem to be much of a connection outside of  the similarities on your profile,
this can allow the other person to cancel a date rather than leaving someone stood up.

When you start dating online, you also have the opportunity to get second opinions from friends, family and co-workers. Your closest circle can help you perhaps see a good match when you don't or even help you spot red flags when you are wearing your rose-colored glasses.

4) Get in the Game Before You Get in the Game!

If you are returning to the dating pool after a long absence, this is a great way to get your toes wet before diving right in. The dating scene is constantly changing. Through social networking and life experiences, what people may remember or expect dating to be, is often not. This disappointment leads to being discouraged from continuing the quest to Find Your Plus One.

Through online dating, you have time to adapt or not. If it matters to you that your date picks up a phone and calls you to ask you out, than you can hold out for that person. If you are fond of technology, you may prefer your potential date text you.

When you are feeling out the dating world online, it can help you prepare for dating in life. Online dating can help you manage expectations by knowing ahead of time what really matters to you. You learn more about yourself and what you consider to be a priority through interacting with other members.

By knowing what you want from a companion, you are ultimately giving yourself the control to select matches that are a good fit. If you wouldn't date a smoker in life, than don't do it online. No profile picture is worth settling or giving up what you really want in life. Compromise is one thing, a complete change of values is another.

5) Expand The Dating Pool to a Dating Ocean!

Because online dating is becoming increasingly more accepted, the number of users increases daily. More and more people are choosing online dating as an affordable and traditional optional.

As you can expand your reach, you are able to meet partners locally, regionally, nationally - and even internationally. Online dating truly puts single partners across the world within your range. Love knows no distance - and neither does online dating.

6) No Two Drink Minimum!

For less than dinner and two cocktails at the hottest spot in town, you have the option to connect with more people online than your one night out on the town. If you absolutely must have some liquid courage while you begin your dating search, you can enjoy your favorite chardonnay or single malt scotch while you search profiles from (almost) anywhere.

7) Your Own Little Corner of the Web!

With so many web site options, there is truly something for everyone. If you are looking for a life partner, a religious preference, a casual encounter - you name it, a site pretty much exists for you. For example, baby boomers and seniors are continually becoming more active on the Internet. If you are over 50 and looking for romance or companionship, there are multiple sites for you, such as You can set up your profile on the site and start looking for love.

8) Social Networking!

One of the latest trends in online dating is hosted events in cities across the country. Group dating becomes an opportunity for you to meet other singles in an open environment. If the idea of one-on-one dating causes your heart to stop, group dating may be perfect for you. Generally held in common places like nightclubs, bars or community centers, these events are an added bonus to the online dating world. Because everyone is there to specifically meet other singles, it removes the awkwardness of hitting on someone in a bar to then be hit on by their significant other who happened to be in the restroom at the time.

9) Technological Advances!

When you date online, you also have the opportunity to safeguard yourself before you meet your date online. Through Google, Facebook, Twitter and other resources, sometimes you can find out a bit more about someone before meeting them. However, remember that what you see online is sometimes not a complete and fair representation of someone. This is where gut and instinct will never replace technology. But it is nice to have code, search and profiles on your side.

10) Because Everyone Deserves a Plus One℠ !

Be it if you are looking for a friend to go to the summer blockbuster movie, a date for dinner and a show, or a partner for life - Everyone Deserves a Plus One.

Log on today and start searching for the one. You just may find the love of your life. 



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