How To Keep A Long Distance Relationship Going Strong


 How To Keep A Long Distance Relationship Going Strong
Rack up those frequent flier miles. You can make a long distance romance work with these few tips.

Channeling Your Sexual Energy

You are not going to be getting that extra loving for a while, so focus that sexual energy on something else. Join a gym, read more books, find a hobby you have always wanted to do. This way you will be less inclined to cheat and also a more well-rounded and fit person. Also you need to be wary, because for some reason, when we are in a relationship and not available, that is when we have more opportunities with members of the opposite sex. I think this is because there is a certain confidence and presence about us that shows we are not looking which then makes us more intriguing to the male species.  This can create a doubtful moment, so be ready and have other things to do then hang out in bars. 

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Instead of the standard email or text message, surprise your boyfriend with a card in the mail. Because of the latest technology we can send a text or an email from just about anywhere. By sending him a hand written letter shows that you took the time out to write and post something meaningful, and it really doesn't take that much more time. Plus, everyone loves opening and receiving mail, a letter that has something nice to say instead of how much money we owe. If you really want to entice him, send a little care package with maybe his favorite chocolate, sweets and some things he will enjoy. That way when he eats his culinary delight, or reads that book, he will think of you.  

Kinky Texts and Phone Conversations

If you arouse him with your extraordinary 'verbal usage' he is less likely to go out and find the real thing. Guys are descriptive people. It doesn't matter if you are painting your toenails and wearing plaid Christmas pajamas. All he knows is what you say. Your words and tone are more powerful then you think. When he hangs up the phone with you, that not only makes the conversation more memorable, but he sees a fun and adventurous side to you when you two are apart. During the day send him a kinky text at the odd hour. It lets him know you are thinking of him and your text will trigger his mind in a 'pleasant' way. Hopefully he is not in a business meeting when you send it. 

Email or Text Arguments

Don't get into a fight or confrontation over a text message or email. Remember, your boyfriend cannot see your face nor hear the tone of your voice. What you say may sound a lot harsher then you actually mean it. Be careful with this because you don't want your love thinking you sporadically turned into a nutcase, when all you mean is to stress a point. Wait until you can actually talk on the phone.

Contributed by Telina McCord, MatchMaster & Dating Expert,

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