When asking the questions, sincerely listen so you can hear the answers. Rather than quickly rushing to the next one on the list, go further and expand the conversation. If you ask "Do you like to travel?" and the answer is "Yes," follow up with "Where are some places that you have been to?" "What did you like about it?"
Use these prompt questions as ways to open up dialogue and start a two-way conversation. Keys to good communication are maintaining a healthy flow of interaction, staying on topic and allowing the other person to take their turn speaking.
Relax, have fun and keep the mood light. Unless the conversation naturally drifts in that direction, try to avoid heavy hitting topics such as religion, politics and human rights issues. Look at the first date as unpeeling the first layer of the proverbial love onion.
Twenty-one questions could lead to a 100 more questions and getting to know each other better.
Contributed by Kimberly James,MatchMaster & Dating Expert, www.findyourplusone.com