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6 Steps For Overcoming Obstacles With Teens

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What do you do when you hit a 'brick wall'? Go from being stuck to accomplishing your goal. (EXPERT)

“Experience is what you get when you didn’t get what you wanted.  It’s a phrase worth considering at every brick wall we encounter, and at every disappointment.  It’s a reminder that failure is not just acceptable, it’s often essential.”  Randy Pausch, The Last Lecture


Many of you have heard the statement that parents are a child’s most important teacher.  What do you want your children to know about life and growing into adulthood?  What will inspire them to work towards finding their passion and fulfilling their potential?  What skills and attitudes will build their self-esteem and help them bust through those brick walls? 

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Of course they will look up to you for your accomplishments.  They will also be inspired by your attitude and how you react when things are not going according to plan.  The shortest distance between two points may be a straight line.  But we know that in life, going from where you are to where you want to be often involves detours, delays and sometimes a change in destination - - in other words, the unexpected brick walls.

 

Sometimes the wall may be relatively insignificant in the scheme of things.  Other times it may be life-altering.   Remember that it is how parents handle the small things that lays the groundwork for the bigger challenges.  So how do you handle the wall?  Are you standing in front of it, frustrated, angry, immobilized?  Are you going around it, or over it, or tearing it down with adaptability, creativity and the attitude of a learner?  Kids are always watching to see what you do.  Here are some tips for getting to the other side of the wall.

Assess the situation.  What is the challenge before you?  Is it really insurmountable?

 

Brainstorm your options.  Write down all possibilities, from the sublime to the ridiculous.  (This process can lead to some creative solutions!)  Eliminate what obviously won’t work. 

Evaluate the finalists for the most realistic, achievable steps.

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Take action.  Put your full effort into this new action plan.

If necessary, rethink your goal.  Is it critical to achieve exactly what you set out to do?  Is compromise possible?  What is the worst thing that will happen if you do, and is it really the worst thing

And finally, reflect.  How did you feel when you hit the wall?  How did you feel after you developed and implemented a new strategy?  What did you learn about the process?  about yourself?  What are you teaching your children about navigating through life?

 

It is said that we learn the most from our challenges.  They test us and strengthen us.  We gain experience, knowledge and wisdom.  Give your children the gift of allowing them to ‘experience’ life.

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