Relive your history. One of the great things about a relationship is the shared history that you have with your partner. A fun way to demonstrate your commitment is to relive that history. Plan a picnic to the spot where he proposed. Go out to dinner at the restaurant where you first kissed. Rent the movie you watched when you first held hands. Revisiting these shared moments strengthens your bond and shows your partner that you are committed to keeping the love alive. Click here for other ways to see how far you've come.
Get creative. Everyone loves physical reminders of why they are valued. Write a poem about your partner's best qualities. Make him/her a mix of all their favorite '80s songs. Give a photo book with pictures of your love over the years. These tangible reminders of the times you've been together not only send a strong message of commitment — they can be fun to make too!
Give a gift of meaning. It can be hard to give a meaningful gift when you don't know someone very well. One of the bonuses of being in a committed relationship is that you know your partner better than almost anyone. Use that knowledge to do a little insider trading. Does your S.O. love listening to music? Get him/her a shower speaker for their iPod. Does he/she like gardening? Then how about getting one of his/her favorite plants? Giving meaningful gifts lets your partner know that not only do you know him/her, but you are committed to getting to know him/her more.
Be his/her champion. When your partner is feeling down, he/she doesn't need you rubbing his/her face in the dirt. You are the one, maybe the only one, he/she can turn to. Showing that you support him/her even when they are wrong is an incredible demonstration of your intention to stay by his/her side, no matter what. Click here for a short video on how to stay up when life brings you or your S.O. down.
Listen more to how he/she feels. In this day and age, hardly anyone listens anymore. We are all so busy planning what we will say next that we don’t really hear what the other person is saying. If you take the time to truly listen to your partner without planning your response, your partner will feel like you understand them in a way that no one else does. And that's a great recipe for happiness.
Follow through with your commitments. One of the best ways to show you are committed is to follow through. If you tell your S.O. that you are going to take care of the taxes, then he/she will trust and rely on you. When you follow through with these commitments, it shows your partner that you value him/her — and the relationship — above everything else.
I know that my S.O. feels more secure and happier, when he doesn't have to worry about whether I'll still be there when he gets home. So to support him/her and reap the benefits of a happier and more optimistic friend, I do what I can to make sure he knows that come wind, sleet, hail, or snow — I'll be there.