The rarity of love is what makes it special. The possibility of love is what keeps us going. And coming to the conclusion after a bunch of frustrating dates that you should give up entirely is simply false.
My darkest month of dating was November, 2006. I met my wife in January, 2007. You never, ever, ever know what's in store for you.
Your dream partner may be going through a divorce right now. He may have just signed onto eHarmony for the first time. He may be focused on his work and will be ready to date by early next year. You have no idea. Which is why I've got no time for "Why Bother?" syndrome. You bother because the only way to find love is to go on dates with strangers. Stop doing that and it's pretty hard to find love. For my client, her big takeaway was that she needs to stop measuring results the way she measures results at school or work. Ultimately, she wants a husband and family, but that's a process that she just started undertaking 11 weeks ago. Yet since we began working together, she has rebranded herself online, gotten a tremendous amount of attention, figured out how to play it cool with men, how to let them choose her, how to assess the difference between wants and needs, how to flirt successfully, how to weed out the players from the keepers, how to be a great first date, how to bounce back from rejection, and how to persevere when the going gets tough.
So she can focus on how some guy with great potential flaked out on her at the last minute, or she can focus on how well-prepared she is going to be to let love into her life. Which do YOU think is a healthier way of looking at things? Success can be measured in a million ways. You can get a 4.0 at a school but get a crappy education. Or you can get a 3.0 and challenge yourself and stretch and grow. What's success to you? All I know is that even though my client was on the verge of tears when we spoke today, she is on a path to success. And I'd bet my bottom dollar that she finds an amazing man who appreciates all of her gifts sooner rather than later.
That's why she bothers.