5 Mistaken Assumptions About Long-Term Love

While marriage dates back to biblical times, the institution has undergone a dramatic transformation in the modern era. What we call marriage today barely resembles its past profile. Formerly, matrimony was about economic sustenance, partnership, companionship, social status and children. Today, marriage is ...

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Boundaries, Negotiation and Open Relationships

”Open relationships” where both members of a couple are “allowed” to have sex with other people, remains a relatively fringe practice. But is it possible that this will be a new way of keeping relationships stronger and more lasting?   This question of monogamy, polyamory, ...

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Erotic Fantasy Reconsidered: From Tragedy To Triumph

PART TWO Tell me how you were loved, and I’ll tell you how you make love. Our emotional history shapes our erotic blueprint and is expressed in the physicality of sex. Accordingly, there is a strong connection between our attachment map (defined as our expectations, conflicts, hopes and ...

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What is Fantasy?

An Example of Fantasy as a Tool to Heal     Our fantasies allow us to negate and undo the limits put upon us by our conscience, by our culture, and by our self-image.   If we feel insecure and unattractive, in our fantasies we are irresistible. If we anticipate a withholding ...

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Erotic Fantasy Reconsidered: From Tragedy to Triumph PART ONE

How we understand fantasy.   Many people approach the inner workings of their erotic mind with great trepidation, believing that the content of their fantasy life is inappropriate in the context of a loving relationship. Our cultural taboos about erotic fantasy are so strong that the very idea of ...

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