I’ve never done this before, but at this point it doesn’t hurt trying to get some help.
My boyfriend and I had been dating for two years, we had been friends since we were 14 (now 19), and had developed feelings for each other when I was 15, him 16. It was constantly us together, all the time and I love it. We finally started dating when I was 17 and both of us could not have been any happier.
Three months after we started dating I had to move away for school, only an hour away so we decided to stay together. The first year I was away we never had problems, we’d bicker about silly things, but nothing major. We were completely in love, he brought up marriage and told me he had known since he first started getting feelings for me that this would be something that would last a long time and told me he never wanted anyone else. I was so happy to hear this and I grew to feel the same way.
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After about a year and 3 months of dating, he got really worked up and broke up with me. I didn’t expect it at all and was in complete shock. He messaged me less than a day later asking to see each other (it was summer time so I was home). We met up and he told me he made a huge mistake and didn’t mean it and apologized numerous times. I took him back and he promised that wouldn’t happen again. Four months later, the same thing happened and he came apologizing within 2 hours of it happening. We talked about what was going on and he was crying and saying he didn’t mean it, again I took him back.
That became a common occurrence and I never understood why. I had known him for so long and this wasn’t who he was, he had never been this way before. After it had happened a few times, I talked to him calmly and told him exactly how this was making me feel and that I felt he was taking me for granted, he promised me he would change and told me I deserve to be treated better by him and that he didn’t want to lose me. Things went really well for about two weeks and he was supposed to come visit me at school last weekend.
There was one night I was in a bitter mood and just realized how insecure all of this made me feel, I was talking to him about it and he was reassuring me that everything would be okay. He then misunderstood something I said and switched from reassuring me to “this relationship is dead, it’s not worth it to me anymore” and I tried explaining what I meant and apologized that it came across how he thought it did, I told him I love him and that this wasn’t what I wanted and he said “It’s not worth it, it’s done”. I didn’t respond that night, but the next day I messaged him hoping he had calmed down and would’ve thought about it. All he responded was “it’s done and it’s done for good”. I didn’t know what to respond, I was just in shock. I want him back.
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