Each person shows love and likes to receive love differently. Some like words of affirmation while others like to be kissed, cuddled and spend quality time together. Some like to receive gifts or have some help around the house. Other people like to communicate and have long talks.
Everyone is different.
The important thing for you to figure out is what your partner needs from you to show them that you love them.
Many times we know what our partners want but we are unwilling to give it. We might do this because we feel like we aren't getting in return or there is so much water under the bridge that we are unwilling to give in.
If you want your relationship to work you are going to have to Get Over It and move forward. You might have to give a little to get a lot.
REAL GIVING is showing and giving to your partner their wants and needs whether we understand it or not. Wether we like it or not. Wether we agree with it or not.
You might not understand how somebody could want these things. It might be totally unnatural for you. Well, It doesn't matter. You don't have to understand it. All you have to do is love your spouse and know what makes them tick.
Do you give to your spouse what is important to you or what is important to them? Answer Honestly.
Here is a little exercise for you to get closer to showing your partner that you love them.
Write the top 3-5 things you can do for your partner so that they will feel loved.
Write the top 3-5 things that your partner can do for you in order for you to feel loved.