How To Relationally Ring In The New Year

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How To Relationally Ring In The New Year
Start the new year off right with your partner (or solo if you're single) by doing an Imago exercise

in many forms. You might look at your partner's and your own struggles, triumphs and lessons from
the past year and then look ahead to the ways you want to improve. Perhaps you want to learn a new
skill, or be more patient, or change your eating habits.
Finally, you ask “What did you learn from me in 2009?” and “What would you like us to learn in
2010?” You will notice that these two are worded slightly differently. The reason for this is that in the
first question you are being asked about your own individual experience, what did you, the individual,
learn from your partner. You cannot answer what your partner may have learned because you do not
live in their head (despite what you often think!). But you can answer what you would like for the two
of you to learn in the coming year, maybe it's a foreign language, or how to be less reactive to one
another or how to rock climb.
I hope you will have fun with this process. You can write down your answers and save them for future
years. They will give you a record of your progress as a couple and your growth as individuals.
Wishing you all a happy, conscious, healthy new year.
Erica J. Burns, M.A. is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and a Licensed Addictions
Therapist with advanced training in Imago Relationship Therapy, Somatic Experiencing and career
counseling. She has offices in Driggs and Jackson and is available for sessions by telephone or Skype.
Her website is ERICAJBURNS.COM. She can be reached at 208 456-3086 or 307 734-5352.
If you would like to submit questions for her to answer in this column, please submit them to
ericajburns@silverstar.com. Feel free to submit them anonymously.

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Erica J Burns

Counselor/Therapist

ERICA J BURNS

Location: Driggs, ID
Credentials: LAC, LPC, MA
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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