Men can be to Clitoris and Vagina, as Call Girls are to Penis

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The night before last, I co-hosted Planned Parenthood's fundraiser, Summer Sex and Spirits with my mentor, Betty Dodson, and Carlin Ross. I chatted with VIP's before the main event began and had some really fun and interesting conversations about sex and learning sex skills, and also gave some individual sex advice. Twice that night, and many times in the past, I had to deal with a cliche about me as a man teaching women about sex: that because I don't have a vagina and a clitoris and all the other parts and spots in-between, I allegedly can't possibly be as qualified as a woman's sex life coach. My complete answer to that is the following: First, what Betty taught me. She's had sex with plenty of women who didn't know jack about good sex skills with female genitals or like many men, believed they were amazing based on illusionary reasons. Further, that there are plenty of women she has had as clients who know very little about their sex. Betty was the first to teach me that the clitoris is of the same in-utero tissue as the penis in a developing baby. All babies start physically female and then divert from the girl-baby direction and begin to form into a boy baby. The glans-penis forms from the developing clitoris. Therefore, it is well within reason that men and women feel very similar sensations, intensity levels varying, when the clitoral glans and glans-penis are rubbed.

 

Secondly, I saw a book that was up on the Summer Sex and Spirits silent auction. (An hour of my sex life coaching was successfully auctioned off as well!) It was called, A Call Girl's Best Sex Tips: 500 How-Tos and Dos to Turn Him On by Renee Dubois. If it's true that a man teaching female sexuality and orgasm is inherently inferior to women doing so, then women understanding male sexuality and orgasm must be equally inferior when compared to a man's skills with a penis. Yet here we have Ms. Dubois' mastery-of-male-sexuality book in all its shining, pink-covered glory... and for some reason, nobody says a word.

By that rationale, straight women are in big trouble. Give it up girls! Okay, wait. Marry a nice baby daddy and go have all your amazing sex with a lesbian. Straight men? Why are you still having sex with women and expecting it to be good? Get your baby mama and then, go get your gay boyfriend. He'll be much better than your wife when it comes to cooking and decorating too. No! That's all crap. Reverse-sexist crap.

The reason why I have to hear this from people is because of the comparatively sad state of affairs when comparing the majority of straight men's sexual skills on women to women's on women. That of course is because of that so-ready-to-die-and-begone traditional blight on society that women do all the sexual serving and learning for the sake of men's pleasure. I kid you not, I have had three women clients or inquirers in less than two weeks come to me and say, after reading www.dodsonandross.com and my blog, that they now see there's more in addition to the pleasures or expectations of only serving male sexuality. Three in less than two weeks.

Oh, and then there's this article on how 80% of women are or have faked loud, moaning orgasms during sex with men to boost the male ego and/or get it over with. Not that this is news, but it is another reason why I have to put up with reverse-sexism. I submit myself as a model of a straight man who refused that path and that fate. Who wanted the real thing in his sex life. If you want to be good at playing with the genitals of the opposite sex, then it takes practice, communication, learning, and development just like everything else in life. Having the same set of genitals you're sexually attracted to at best gives you a head start, or perhaps the equivalent of talent. That person will inevitably reach a point in their sexual sophistication where if they don't seek out new things, developed from scratch or learned from others, then they don't get better or diversified. Simple as that. Having the same sex organs, even though you know what it feels like (to you I might add) is not a trump card.

Therefore, why does a call girl get unquestioned respect for her dick skills? Because she has a lot of experience and time developing and perfecting wonderful things to do to a penis. The same respect applies to me as a sex life coach to women as well as men. I met a very nice gay male couple at the party and they too said they were very interested in working with me, even though I'm straight. Again, the sexual preference doesn't matter. Can you bring the skills, and then build upon those skills to even hotter skills, or not? Great sex life coaches, are all the same no matter what they teach. Assuming they have a great teacher(s) themselves, they understand their material to a detailed and advanced level and can effectively communicate that material regardless of gender, sexual preference, or circumstance.

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