Now, let's discuss super-safe sex technique and mindset. Perhaps the biggest culpret of condom breaks and sudden pull-offs is during fast and hard intercourse. The cock ring solves the pull off, but not the break. Men need to learn what it feels like to have their penis head rammed up tight into the semen reservoir. When that happens, condom breaks are much easier. If something suddenly feels funny, withdraw and check it out. Again, care for her and your safety. You're much more likely to be invited back for more sex later. You could use slower to medium speed intercourse pumpings to keep the break possibility much-reduced or be aware of how things feel while you're doing fast and hard and for how long.
The voracious, vampire, firey sex approach is very hot, and, it's also out of its own mind. The nature of that intention and action is you don't care about anything but consuming the hottie or hot guy. That can make you do things without safety in place or make "oops!" mistakes even if you do. That can make you lose it and kiss them. If you want super-safe sex, choose to do that kind of sex with your primary partner if you're non-monogamous or someone you choose to enter into a monogamous relationship with and you know their status. Do people know their oral HPV status these days? No. Genital? No. Only women know the genital status and men constantly transmit to women. Yes, HPV and the cancer it can cause is what is causing me the most concern these days, not HIV. Remember, even with condoms, HPV is still possibly transmittable to each other. Read my blogs on that for more info. Due to damn HPV, there is no 100% safe sex unless you are presently monogamous and your bodies have cleared the virus.
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There's also emotionally safe sex. I have a partner who does not kiss me due to HSV1 protection and also because she saves that for her primary partner in her non-monogamous relationship. I'm now following the same rules with my new primary partner, Kira. It creates an emotional attachment safety. Yes, there's more about safe sex than just physical health. The extra levels of latex and attention to following the rules also keeps the two of you more in a mode of lighter erotic fun and hotness than deeper levels.
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For those new to my blog, I write on my and others' sex life, in erotica form, because many of us need only read of an example of what really is possible. It so often lights a desire to "Want to do that. Feel that." They want to learn how to have better sex through sex advice and sex education, maybe for the first time in their lives. I also intend to present to my readers the reality of great sex from basic to advanced. Finally, ever wonder how good the sex that your sex therapist is having in their own sex life? I have. I'm not a sex therapist, I don't do sex therapy. I'm a sex life coach. I teach and I do.