Twice I've sealed the erotic deal because I was ready with condoms, lube, and an honest attitude. They could feel that I was the real thing, telling the truth, and not one of those jackasses who pull off the condom in the middle of it or right before they orgasm inside her.
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Here are my methods for safe, safer, and super-safe sex:
Safe Sex: I want to start out by mentioning a step for safe sex that's forgotten all the time before sex even begins. Taking a shower and washing your hands properly. It's possible to transmit bacteria and viruses from mostly your hands and sometimes the body without first scrubbing up. That means wash hands up to the wrists in warm water and soap worked into a lather for 15 seconds and have a brush available for cleaning under your fingernails. If you are not planning on using gloves, this is especially important. I recommend people go out and buy a little brush for scrubbing under fingernails before sex especially. Your fingers are going into all sorts of hot, sexy orifices. The owner of said orifices would be honored and protected with
clean ones. Lathering up the penis is a good thing, as Martha Stewart would probably say, both for fun and sexual hygene. Women can avoid a bout with a urinary tract infection or yeast overgrowth with that preventative measure. I think a shower together is great foreplay too. Try it with candles lit outside on the bathroom sink. It's much sexier than the bathroom light. If you've been at a club all night or even on a long date handling money, going to bathrooms several times, perspiring, maybe not having had a shower after work, then you've handled a lot of areas where you can pick up unwanted germs that have nothing to do with STD's. If you're in a hotel, throw off the blanket they provide you with because that doesn't get washed very often or if you plan on staying overnight, be cool and bring a fresh duvet from your place to cover the covers. Not always practical, but if it is, on romantic travel as a couple especially, it's worth mentioning. Oh, and we don't have bidets here in the states, so showering together and washing that little area nice and clean is smart, it feels amazing, plus it's very intimate.