Is There a Cold War Between Marrieds and Singles?


Is There a Cold War Between Marrieds and Singles?
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If you are single and hurt by some of the words or actions of a married friend, consider talking with your friend about how you feel (if you think the friendship is strong enough to tolerate such a discussion.) Also, be sure to focus on and enjoy the many advantages and freedoms of being single. Consider that some of the tension with your married friends may either be a reflection of your friend's marital insecurities, marital conflicts, or even boredom. Remember, the happier you are with your own current path, the less likely you are to look off your path and put yourself down in comparison to another.

Also, keep in mind the "Seans" of your past. Why? Because it is worth reminding yourself that you could be married if you wanted to be; however, the partners you have "tried on" so far have not been the right for you. Until you find your ideal "fit," consider Carrie's final observation of the episode:

"Sure, it would be great to have that special someone to walk home with. But sometimes, there's nothing like meeting your girlfriends at the movies."

Check in soon to consider Carrie's cutting-edge question: "Are Men in their Twenties the New Designer Drug?"

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Elisabeth LaMotte


Social worker, psychotherapist, blogger and author of "Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce"

Location: Washington, DC
Credentials: LICSW, MFT, MSW
Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Divorce/Divorce Prevention
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