3 Wedding Planning Tips; A Therapist's Perspective

By Elisabeth LaMotte. Posted on Jan 18th 2013.

Weddings are as much about psychologically separating from parents as they are about party planing

At least once a week, make sure you spend a chunk of quality time together where you do not talk about anything related to your wedding. Do the things you love to do, and make an effort to talk about non-wedding topics. This is good practice for remembering all of the other things that are going on in your lives that have nothing to do with your wedding. By staying engaged (pun intended) in topics of interest other than your wedding, you are less likely to end up boring your friends by becoming consumed by the party planning process. More importantly, weekly planning breaks will keep you in touch with the reasons you are marrying one another in the first place!

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Counselor/Therapist

Social worker, psychotherapist, blogger and author of "Overcoming Your Parents' Divorce"

Location: Washington, DC

Credentials: LICSW, MSW

Specialties: Communication Problems, Dating/Being Single Support, Divorce/Divorce Prevention

Website: http://www.elisabethlamotte.com

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