How can your relationship cause you to get enlightened? Living with someone and working on your spiritual growth seem like two different things.
Here's how it works:
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To have a really satisfying relationship, you need to know yourself inside and out. You understand the psychological forces and instincts driving your actions. You understand what you really want out of life and even know how to get it. You can stand on your own. You are independent and self sufficient. Loving others is a natural extension of your self appreciation and love.
Enlightenment is really all about seeing the light about who we really are and the light within ourselves. It is experiencing our connection to our Divine Nature and the Oneness or God/Goddess.
Okay, this sounds good, but how do you get there?
To develop these characteristics within yourself, you have to make a conscious effort to raise an awareness about yourself. And, who better to prod you than your partner?
Your partner came into your life by design. It may have seemed like a chance encounter or a random selection, but before you were born, you and a whole group of souls planned out your life experience and the roles that each one of them would play. You had several backup plans so that if one situation didn't work out, you could try the same sort of experience with another person.
Every time you get upset or get out of your comfort zone, you have to figure out how to deal with the situation. You take a look at your role in the situation. You are offered the opportunity to learn something new about yourself and make new choices.
Relationships offer sharp contrast. Your partner may have an idea or want to do something that you are not interested in at all. Or, he may want to purchase something that you either can't afford or you think is a waste of money.
Every time a difference comes up between you and your partner, you are offered the opportunity to review how you feel and figure out how to turn this into a win-win situation. You have to deal with yourself, your emotions, and fears. Otherwise, you break up and go on to the next relationship, which will only play out like the prior one did. You keep repeating relationship patterns until you figure out how to make different choices.
You have an emotional bond that holds you together, that allows you to push and shove within the context of love and sort things out. You would not be nearly so willing to come to a decision that works for both of you with a co-worker or casual acquaintance. And, when you live alone, you do everything the way you want without anyone to challenge you.
It's the love-relationship bond that raises the stakes and forces you to step up to the plate and work things out, which means you learn about yourself and deal with your fears, or you leave.
Your partner plays his or her role perfectly, offering you the opportunity to have life experiences from which you can learn, grow, and expand your consciousness. You see, every time you get an ah-ha moment—every time you learn something new about yourself—you are expanding your awareness and consciousness and raising your vibration.
So, look at those annoying situations as blessings—as one more step toward enlightenment.
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Each one of us is different and designed to create a unique life for ourselves. If you would like to gain more understanding about yourself, hasten raising your awareness, I would love to work with you. I invite you to contact me so that we can determine how best I can support your journey and make the most of your relationship.