When you compare the range of angles a woman can reach using her own arm to the range of motion by a partner who is correctly positioned, it’s clear that a partner can do a lot more with those toys to help a woman receive the full benefit of whatever implements she may have in the toy bag. In fact, many toys on the market today are specifically designed to be used by a partner and are practically useless for masturbation. So, wipe away that old connotation of toys. Some games are most definitely more fun when played by two.
Toys Will Replace Me as a Partner — As a tandem of the above concern, some partners are concerned that some toys may deliver sensations and experiences that just cannot be matched by simple human to human interaction, and they fear that the toys will replace them in bed. Granted, there are some toys that are very ingenuitive these days, from swivel-headed vibrators to the Sybian (think of a sit-down vibrator run by an outboard motor), and we completely understand how they can be a little intimidating. There has been many a partner who has had to peel a woman off the ceiling after experiencing some of the more innovative devices on the market. But a toy cannot replace the sexual dynamic that two people can achieve together. The largest and most important sexual organ in the human body is the brain, and no matter the horsepower of the toy involved, they have yet to market anything with the imagination and creativity of the human mind. By joining your partner in the enjoyment of toys, you will be an inextricable part of their sexual lives and your role will be secure as long as you share your hearts and your imaginations together.
So don’t be afraid. Minds work best when they are open. And so do toys, once they are out of the box and in your bedroom.
This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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2. Not Touching His Balls
"Don't neglect them. Fondle them, massage them, give them a good pull when deep-throating. We like it, don't be shy." -Dennis, 31
Harsh Hand Jobs
3. Harsh Hand Jobs
"I have no idea why some women think we want our junk pulled off during a hand job. There's got to be a rhythm to it. Also, please don't be shy to spit into your hand occasionally while you're doing it." -Hank, 37
4. Assuming You Both Like The Same Things
"A couple weeks ago, I hooked up with a girl who loved having her nipples played with. Eventually we got to sex, and when I told her I was about to finish, she reached up and started ferociously pinching and twisting my nipples. I haven't spoken to her since, and I'd be lying if I said this had nothing to do with it." -Ray, 25
5. Not Making The First Move
"I'm 33 and still don't ever really know how soon is too soon to initiate sex with a girl, since everyone is different about that stuff. But I do know that having her let me know she's ready by taking her clothes off is the sexiest thing ever." -Brett, 33
6. Not Speaking Up About What You Want
"Women know what they like and don't like, but a lot of them don't really verbalize it. We both have the same goal -- to get to the promised land. But I can't get you there without a bit of a road map. You're an expert on your own body, so if I need to do something to make this night a good one, please let me know!" -Ricky, 25
10. Lack Of Participation
"Sex is a two person event, and both people should be willing and excited to participate. There's no fun in doing all the work while the other person just lays there. Switch positions and get in on the fun - it's a team sport!" -Rick, 26
11. Giving Too Much, Too Soon
"Recently this girl gave me head and it was great...except it started with all these fast wrist motions, and lots of lip and tongue action right away. When you're giving head, ease into it. This isn't a contest. Get comfortable and let it build." -Evan, 26
12. Being Too Self-Conscious
"You'd be surprised at how many women won't accept things like oral because of their own body issues. If I want do something special for you, let me. Don't keep thinking, 'OMG does he think I'm attractive?!' Because...of course I do." -Jason, 25
"I can't believe I'm saying this, but ladies, please don't try to intentionally mark us. The last girl I dated did this all the time when we were having sex ... and I don't understand why she thought it was hot. If anything it makes you look insecure. You really need to leave your mark to make sure everyone knows I'm off the market? No thanks." -Jeff, 22
1. Being Too Quiet
"There's nothing more awkward than having sex with a girl when the only noise you hear is the squeak of the bed. If what I'm doing to you feels good, make some noise!" - Ben, 30