The Self Fulfilling Prophecies of Relationships

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The Self Fulfilling Prophecies of Relationships
Or, Why You Shouldn’t Always Listen to Your Friends
  • First, write down any negative beliefs you have about your partner.
  • Next, challenge yourself (really challenge yourself!) to look for evidence or proof that disproves or contradicts your negative beliefs. This helps you test your beliefs about your partner.
  • Finally, when you find proof that disproves your beliefs, let them know you noticed the good stuff they are doing.  Acknowledge and thank them.

If you have difficulty with this challenge or feel your negative beliefs about your partner are true and you need help, please feel free to contact us. Whatever is going on, we might be able to help you both understand it, address it appropriately and move past it so you can focus more energy on the good stuff.

Sincerely,
Drs. Chuck and Jo-Ann Bird

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Location: Brandon, FL
Credentials: LMHC, NCC, PhD
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