Let’s Talk About Sex, Or Better Yet – You Talk About it With Your

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Let’s Talk About Sex, Or Better Yet – You Talk About it With Your

In our culture, sex is something we think about often, but rarely actually talk about.

According to a recent Ohio State University study, men think about sex about 18 times each day, while women think about sex 10 times a day. What the study didn’t indicate, however, was how many times couples — who between them think about sex 28 times every day — actually talk about sex with each other.

Our culture uses sex to sell cars, beer, snack foods and even household cleaners, when sex should actually be used to bring our relationships closer and heighten our intimacy and enjoyment of our relationships.

No, really. Don’t believe me? Watch a romantic comedy film. ANY romantic comedy. Here’s what you’ll see:
   

  1.     Boy meets girl (usually Jennifer Aniston).
  2.     Boy gets girl.
  3.     Boy has massive misunderstanding with girl because they communicate like they’re talking on cell phones with spotty signals.
  4.     Boy’s deadbeat, drunken, loser best friend concocts stupid plan to reunite boy with girl
  5.     All hell breaks loose.
  6.     Boy gets girl despite various stupid human tricks because — wait for it — HE TALKS TO HER HONESTLY.
  7.     The End

So, let’s get over it and look at some ideas on what we all need to do in order to talk openly with our partners about sex.

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