SPECIALTIES

Communication Problems

Years in Practice

6 Years

where

Singapore SG 189673 - Singapore

Credentials

MA, Other

Additional Expertise

Life Coach, Relationship Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter

I Practice in

All areas, please inquire

I AM FLUENT IN

Chinese

I Believe

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience by which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

"I didn’t know I had a vulva until I went to sex school. Of course, I have a vulva (pronounced as ‘vuhl-vah’) and a vagina (pronounced ‘vha-gine-a’). I just didn’t know what they were called." - Dr. Martha Tara Lee

About Martha Tara Lee

Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Tara Lee is a Clinical Sexologist who conducts sexuality and intimacy coaching in Asia. She is compassionate, practical, honest, interactive and solution-focused. Dr. Lee incorporates a blend of conventional and alternative approaches and draws upon a variety of styles and techniques to support each client as they work to resolve both current problems and long-standing patterns.

Dr. Lee utilizes her years of experience in professional communications and volunteer counseling to optimize her coaching work. A well-traveled Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, Men’s Health Malaysia, Durex Singapore Facebook page as well as Durex Malaysia Facebook page. She has a weekly column with PublicHouse.sg and blogs for Good Vibrations Magazine. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. Her first book Love, Sex and Everything In-Between was published by Marshall Cavendish in Oct 2013.

Sexuality Coaching 

Sexuality coaching is concerned with the physical, psychological, social, emotional, and spiritual makeup of an individual. It can address gender, gender role, gender identity, sexual orientation, sexual preference, and social norms as they affect physical, emotional, and spiritual life.

Life Coaching

Life Coaching is about breaking down the barriers, which prevent change from happening and creating the ideal environment for positive action to take place. It is a totally holistic approach which looks at the present and sets goals for a more successful future.

Sexual Education Workshops

Dynamic and customized public education workshops and programs for educational institution and organizations are available. Please contact me directly to discuss your needs.

Telephone Access

For greater convenience, telephone coaching or counseling is available through Skype. This option is extended to clients whom I have already met at least once. If you travel or other schedule demands make this the preferred option, please email to arrange.

Answer Sexuality Questions Via Email

Ask a factual question related to sex or sexuality and I will answer you within 72 hours! Note: This has to be a straight forward question where a clear answer is possible, and not applicable to personal sexual issues as it is not possible to diagnose or treat via email. Payment via Paypal.

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Martha Tara Lee Success Stories

With her help I became a real women

Women with sexual dysfunctions

“I’ve been married for 10 years and never really had sex due to the pain I experience. I’ve been suffering in silence all these years as I do not know where to seek help. I went to a doctor in a local hospital a few years ago but that didn’t help at all. All the doctor advised was for me to try to relax and do the kegel exercises… sex was still a pain. more

I went to see Martha in Jan this year. I wasn’t sure initially if she could really help me. But I thought, I have to give it a try. Throughout the whole session she made me feel very comfortable and at ease. And I still wasn’t sure if I could have sex successfully after the sessions with her. Not that I was not confident with her or doubt her abilities…I wasn’t sure if I could do it. But she gave me lots of encouragement and assured me that I could do it just like any other women. I listened attentively in the 2 sessions I had with her and did the exercises she told me to. After just 2 sessions, I did it! I had sex for the first time! It was an emotional and beautiful experience. It was painful and uncomfortable initially but as we move along, it became easier and more pleasurable. Now, I look forward to sex… I don’t have to turn away from sex due to pain anymore.

I thank Martha from the bottom of my heart. With her help I became a real women… she changed our lives… she strengthen my relationship with my husband.”

- Virgin

I thank Martha from the bottom of my heart

Women with sexual dysfunctions

“When I first met Martha, I knew she would be someone I could talk to openly without having to censor myself or worry about being judged. She herself is a woman who can speak to people on many different levels, as I’ve observed, while always remaining true to who she is. She is open and candid, funny and smart, sensitive and compassionate. All these things made me comfortable in approaching her in the first place. more

I had been suffering in silence for years and after meeting Martha, felt for the first time in my 28 years, like there was light at the end of the tunnel. Not only did she address all the issues I presented her with, she was 100 percent successful in helping me get over them!

I was a virgin for 28 years, not because I wanted to be or thought I had to save myself, but because sex was always something that was too painful for me. I had tried a number of times with a few partners, and attempted penetration always left me with blinding pain. I often felt like there was something wrong with me because I knew that sex was supposed to be a natural thing, and being single and having to date always made me feel anxious because I hated the thought of having to deal with sex with new people.

In only 3 sessions, Martha helped me overcome everything I had been trying to fight against all my life and I finally managed to have sex with the partner that I love and trust, whom I had been trying to make love to for 5 years. She went through relaxation exercises, physical exercises, pelvic exercises, and most of all, encouraged me. With every session, she gave me the courage to be myself and acknowledge the things I deserve.

By my fourth session with Martha, we were discussing methods to start enjoying the sex I was already having. If that’s not a feat, I don’t know what is.

She helped me with something that I was nearly going to give up on after having tried for so long.

Until I met Martha, I was clueless about the fact that there were practicing sexologists in Singapore and always felt at a loss when it came to whom I could talk to about my sexuality and my problems with sex. Martha gave me the avenue to be honest about sex in a society that is so afraid to even utter a word about it. If I had not met with her, I am certain that I would still be in the same position I was in a few months ago, struggling with something that I thought was near impossible.

I thank Martha from the bottom of my heart, for giving me the self-esteem to be a healthy, sexual person and for being the force that managed to push me over one of the greatest hurdles of my life.”

- Anonymous

Many solutions to life’s challenges

Men with sexual dysfunctions

“I’ve been working on self-development for several years now, but I’ve found there’s little substitute for working with a coach to work through my issues. Martha is a personal coach who’s remarkably free from judgment. Her gentle challenges of “Well, why not?” to my countless self-imposed barriers, has removed more psychological roadblocks than I had ever managed on my own. I learned there’s as many solutions to life’s challenges as I’m open to. more

Martha’s belief in the positive power of intimacy and an open heart pointed the way towards possibilities and experiences I never considered possible in my life. If you’ve an issue you haven’t been able to work out on your own, why not do something different this time? Try talking to Martha.”

- Anonymous Male

She has my whole hearted recommendation

Men dealing with work related stress

“I have been the fortunate recipient of individual coaching from Martha Lee during four one-hour sessions. more

These sessions have covered three subjects which are current concerns for me:

1. developing a short term plan for improvement of physical exercise program and mental well being
2. initiation of a medium term career transition plan
3. defining first steps and aspirational goals for a long term personal development plan (a passion for more serious creative photography)

In each session, Ms. Lee expertly guided me through establishing the objective of the particular session, defining the goals I would like to set for myself, examination of options, hurdles, and opportunities in achieving these goals, and establishing my personal level of commitment to successful realization of these goals.

I would characterize Ms. Lee’s approach as professional, non judgemental, appropriately structured and goal oriented, personally interested and asking relevant thought provoking questions, encouraging of further ideas and development of detail action steps, and establishing a supportive openness to discuss follow through and results.

While these sessions were the first time I actually thought through and discussed many of my desired goals with another person, Ms Lee’s encouraging smile would appear at exactly the right instant to allow me to comfortably do so.

I value my coaching sessions with Ms. Lee, and feel I have already benefited greatly. She has my whole hearted recommendation.”
- Duff Hughes (Mr.)

Through Life Coaching I can realise my true potential

Women dealing with work related stress

“I’ve learnt that through Life Coaching I can realise my true potential. Through guided advice and tools, Martha applied her knowledge learnt throughout my sessions with her. The tools were useful in my day to day coping with stress and expanded my imagination of ways to find affirmation for yourself, looking at the positive aspects of situations and thinking through life situations in the past. more

I recommend Martha to anyone wishing for a supportive guide to take them through life in order to make better choices for themselves and expand their ways of thinking.”

- Sha Najak (Ms.)

Sex was always a nightmare for me

Women with sexual dysfunctions

“Before i met Martha, sex always a nightmare for me. After married for one year plus, having sex become a most stress issue in my marriage. Always feel pain, scare and tired for keep trying, but always end with crying and upset. more

Until I read an article about that lot of woman having same problem like what I had facing, and that’s the first time I knew Martha from the magazine, I decided to give a try to seek for her help. Through out the first session, she try her best to understand my problems and my worries, then encourage me make me feel that there is a hope that I can overcome this problem, as long as I follow her instruction, doing kegel exercises with the understanding how to make myself relax, slowly then I should be able to overcome it.

After first session, Martha always follow up my status by email and encourage me if have any problem not sure can just give her a call. After second session, finally me and my husband manage to have sex for the first time! I still feel painful and not really comfortable but at least it was no longer a barrier for me. As long as I keep practicing those exercises, it will become better and I would be able to enjoy more for my sex life.

Really appreciate Martha for helping me to become a real woman, and enjoy good quality sex life without pain and fear.“- Anonymous Lady

I could not, cannot have penetrative sex!

Women with sexual dysfunctions

Until I met the one and what I thought was a natural process of just doing it turn out to be such a tramatic and painful session. I could not, cannot have penetrative sex! more

Before i met Martha, sex always a nightmare for me. After married for one year plus, having sex become a most stress issue in my marriage. Always feel pain, scare and tired for keep trying, but always end with crying and upset.

Until I read an article about that lot of woman having same problem like what I had facing, and that’s the first time I knew Martha from the magazine, I decided to give a try to seek for her help. Through out the first session, she try her best to understand my problems and my worries, then encourage me make me feel that there is a hope that I can overcome this problem, as long as I follow her instruction, doing kegel exercises with the understanding how to make myself relax, slowly then I should be able to overcome it.

After first session, Martha always follow up my status by email and encourage me if have any problem not sure can just give her a call. After second session, finally me and my husband manage to have sex for the first time! I still feel painful and not really comfortable but at least it was no longer a barrier for me. As long as I keep practicing those exercises, it will become better and I would be able to enjoy more for my sex life.

Really appreciate Martha for helping me to become a real woman, and enjoy good quality sex life without pain and fear."- Anonymous Lady

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