Dr Dorree Lynn (Other,PhD)
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Jenna, your article pushed me to write a response article, which can be read on YourTango as well... http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-dorree-lynn/gay-marriage-do-we-follow-bible-or-follow-our-hearts Here's a clip from my response to you: The question isn't whether or not homosexuality is an abomination, or if it's wrong, or if the Bible does or doesn't say so. The more meaningful question is how should we, as a culture and a society, respond and react to homosexuals, the rights of homosexuals, and the inclusion of homosexuals into accepted society? Denying homosexuals rights is less about protecting the rights of others and more about supporting discrimination of God's children. I believe we should love each other regardless, if for no other reason than because we're all human, because we're all "God's Children." If God has a problem with homosexuals, then one should assume God will sort it out. In less than a month I'll be 70 years old. I hope to see another 30 or 40 years, but I know that my day will come sooner than later. And when I get to wherever I'm going, if any such place exists, I'd like to hear God say, "Welcome, my child," instead of, "THAT'S NOT WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT!"
Fantasies of any kind are OK. Acting on behaviors that have harmful consequences is different. In fact, people who have fantasies tend to be more comfortable with their sexuality and act out less. All of sexuality has to do with control and surrender. Anything between two consenting adults that does not lead to injury (unless even injury is consensual) is considered within the normal range. Currently, there is a role confusion for both women and men--women tend to want house husbands and lovers they can talk to and primordially they want cavemen in the bedroom. Imagine the conflict for both sexes. If a woman is fortunate enough to be able to express her fantasy to a willing and trusting partner, and both agree on boundaries (as pointed out in the S&M community) it is considered normal and stimulating. The point is to differentiate between a consensual act and a forced non-consensual behavior. An extreme and poignant example is when men rape enemies' women during an act of war. In fact, many sociologists believe that rape is a primary weapon in more primitive battles. Again, the difference lies between consensual and non-consensual. In today's society where "PC" has, in my view, gotten totally out of hand, women gain power when they are able to express their wishes.
Posted on: Why Rape Fantasies Are OK
Dear NiceGuyHubby: your response is based almost entirely on stereotypes and fantasies. First, men make babies, they just don't have to carry it around for 9 months while it eats away at you from inside. Some women have networks of friends BECAUSE we like to talk, but don't be mistaken... women only really trust a handful of people most of the time. As for you wanting a "vag" of your own, do you really? One that you have to live with every day? Do you honestly think you could handle the ups and downs that come with menstruation, childbirth and menopause, or do you just want one for an hour a day so you can entertain yourself with it? Because if you can't handle utilizing your inner-anal "sex organ" then you're probably not prepared to manage a vagina. And lesbo-love... if it was as good as you think it is, then we'd see a lot less lesbians out in public. I think the point of this article is to illustrate the areas in which men are jealous of women. And I do get where you're coming from. Men lack the bond that forms between a mother and a child, and due to social and environmental factors, men are typically less likely to open up to their friends about personal issues, if for no other reason than it seems unmanly to do so. I'm interested in the flip side of this argument. What do women envy about men? The ability to use any bathroom regardless of how filthy it is? The ability to be less emotional or emotionless about certain issues?
Posted on: Why Men Secretly Wish They Were Women
re: women can masturbate more discretely than men... That's obvious but doesn't make much sense. And just because they can, do they? Suppose a woman and a man are both on a train, and both are "discretely masturbating"... who's the pervert? More to the point, what's wrong with masturbating more overtly, including with your partner? I recommend it in my book, Sex for Grownups.
Posted on: Why Men Secretly Wish They Were Women
Your breast belong to you. They're always yours. You can lend them out to your husband and children but they are yours from the time they were buds, till they became boobs, and they will be yours until they bottom out. YOU own them! But what's wrong with sharing them with either your husband or your baby? I know of very few men who don't suckle when their wives are producing milk, because let's face it, every man is drawn to tasting the milk of life. You might want to read the last page of the great John Steinbeck's "Grapes of Wrath." There is no better scene of a woman owning her own breasts than in the last page of that book.