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• If it's too soon for oral sex, what were you in the "heat of the moment" of? Kissing? Touching? These are acts that require two-parties, as where oral sex, unless mutual, is more of a "one person works while the other person relaxes" kind of game. I agree with some of the other posts here that suggest that perhaps he's not ready, or that he's nervous. If it's the latter, pushing him to do something he's uncomfortable with could have negative affects on your relationship--anxiety can be detrimental in bed. If this is a serious relationship there should be no reason why the two of you can't communicate about the issue openly. Maybe he's taking it slow because sex means more to him. Maybe he's taking it slow because he's anxious about taking the next step. Regardless of the reason, talking about it openly--addressing your desires and your willingness to please one another--can help you either overcome the situation or identify ways of coping with it. SEE MORE

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• I never thought caloric intake had anything to do with the decision to swallow or not. If it pleases you, do, if it doesn't then don't. If you are pre-planning to swallow, keep in mind that the foods your man eats prior to said sexual event can directly affect the taste of your partner's seamen. For example, steaks and meaty foods can make the seamen taste rather raunchy, as where fruits and smoothies can make the seamen taste like another desert. I recommend juice or a nice fruit smoothie. SEE MORE

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• I'm not quite sure I fully understand why you're taking time with this man. He obviously doesn't float your boat. So if you're going to spend the time dating someone, why not spend that time with someone who really peaks your interest. Someone who doesn't make you feel hesitant to meet him in the first place? The process of dating is like job hunting, only with your heart on your sleeve. If you want to go out with him, then meet up for a glass of wine or some light lunch. But if you're looking for a life partner, this one doesn't sound like you're off to a great start. That being said, if you want to pursue it for the sake of practice, then practice away!! But it seems to me that just getting out and about right now and interacting with people in the real world would be good for you. Is he worth a glass of wine or a lunch date, sure why not? But this guy doesn't sound like he's your prince. SEE MORE

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Jenna, your article pushed me to write a response article, which can be read on YourTango as well... http://www.yourtango.com/experts/dr-dorree-lynn/gay-marriage-do-we-follow-bible-or-follow-our-hearts Here's a clip from my response to you: The question isn't whether or not homosexuality is an abomination, or if it's wrong, or if the Bible does or doesn't say so. The more meaningful question is how should we, as a culture and a society, respond and react to homosexuals, the rights of homosexuals, and the inclusion of homosexuals into accepted society? Denying homosexuals rights is less about protecting the rights of others and more about supporting discrimination of God's children. I believe we should love each other regardless, if for no other reason than because we're all human, because we're all "God's Children." If God has a problem with homosexuals, then one should assume God will sort it out. In less than a month I'll be 70 years old. I hope to see another 30 or 40 years, but I know that my day will come sooner than later. And when I get to wherever I'm going, if any such place exists, I'd like to hear God say, "Welcome, my child," instead of, "THAT'S NOT WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT!"
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Fantasies of any kind are OK. Acting on behaviors that have harmful consequences is different. In fact, people who have fantasies tend to be more comfortable with their sexuality and act out less. All of sexuality has to do with control and surrender. Anything between two consenting adults that does not lead to injury (unless even injury is consensual) is considered within the normal range. Currently, there is a role confusion for both women and men--women tend to want house husbands and lovers they can talk to and primordially they want cavemen in the bedroom. Imagine the conflict for both sexes. If a woman is fortunate enough to be able to express her fantasy to a willing and trusting partner, and both agree on boundaries (as pointed out in the S&M community) it is considered normal and stimulating. The point is to differentiate between a consensual act and a forced non-consensual behavior. An extreme and poignant example is when men rape enemies' women during an act of war. In fact, many sociologists believe that rape is a primary weapon in more primitive battles. Again, the difference lies between consensual and non-consensual. In today's society where "PC" has, in my view, gotten totally out of hand, women gain power when they are able to express their wishes.
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Dear NiceGuyHubby: your response is based almost entirely on stereotypes and fantasies. First, men make babies, they just don't have to carry it around for 9 months while it eats away at you from inside. Some women have networks of friends BECAUSE we like to talk, but don't be mistaken... women only really trust a handful of people most of the time. As for you wanting a "vag" of your own, do you really? One that you have to live with every day? Do you honestly think you could handle the ups and downs that come with menstruation, childbirth and menopause, or do you just want one for an hour a day so you can entertain yourself with it? Because if you can't handle utilizing your inner-anal "sex organ" then you're probably not prepared to manage a vagina. And lesbo-love... if it was as good as you think it is, then we'd see a lot less lesbians out in public. I think the point of this article is to illustrate the areas in which men are jealous of women. And I do get where you're coming from. Men lack the bond that forms between a mother and a child, and due to social and environmental factors, men are typically less likely to open up to their friends about personal issues, if for no other reason than it seems unmanly to do so. I'm interested in the flip side of this argument. What do women envy about men? The ability to use any bathroom regardless of how filthy it is? The ability to be less emotional or emotionless about certain issues?
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re: women can masturbate more discretely than men... That's obvious but doesn't make much sense. And just because they can, do they? Suppose a woman and a man are both on a train, and both are "discretely masturbating"... who's the pervert? More to the point, what's wrong with masturbating more overtly, including with your partner? I recommend it in my book, Sex for Grownups.
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Your breast belong to you. They're always yours. You can lend them out to your husband and children but they are yours from the time they were buds, till they became boobs, and they will be yours until they bottom out. YOU own them! But what's wrong with sharing them with either your husband or your baby? I know of very few men who don't suckle when their wives are producing milk, because let's face it, every man is drawn to tasting the milk of life. You might want to read the last page of the great John Steinbeck's "Grapes of Wrath." There is no better scene of a woman owning her own breasts than in the last page of that book.
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