Love is the meaning of Live and being able to give love and receive love is the life lesson.
About Ava Cadell
DR. AVA CADELL Clinical Sexologist-Media Therapist-Author-Speaker-Founder of Loveology University Loveologist to Hollywood stars, author of 7 books and acclaimed media personality, Dr. Ava is a pioneer in the field of love, relationships, romance, intimacy and human sexuality. She is known around the world for giving people a complete perspective to different groups as demonstrated by her international media and live seminar appearances. Dr. Ava has appeared on hundreds of Television shows and networks including Good Morning America, The Doctors, Extra, Montel, Geraldo, CNN, MSNBC, NBC, ABC & Fox News, a variety of shows for the BBC, Sky TV, MTV, VH1, Discovery, Lifetime, TLC, ‘E’ and A & E. "If everybody listened to Dr. Ava's relationship advice, this world would be a much better place and we would all be having great sex!" Ms. Terry Murphy, Emmy Award winning journalist, host of TV’s Hard Copy and producer at EXTRA. Dr. Ava has a doctorate in human behavior from Newport University, CA and a Doctorate of Education in Human Sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. She is an AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, Clinical Sexologist, Hypnotherapist, Continuing Education Provider for the CA Board of Behavioral Sciences and the CA Board of Registered Nursing. Through her private practice in Los Angeles, Dr. Ava counsels people on main stream issues that range from anger management, fear of commitment, lack of communication to lack of desire. She also specializes in helping singles and couples with personal problems such as performance anxiety, infidelity, sexual compulsion, fetishes, inability to orgasm to parental concerns. As a highly sought after speaker Dr. Ava has traveled to four continents motivating Fortune 500 business owners, doctors, religious groups, students and women’s organizations to create magical relationships and passionate intimate moments. Dr. Ava says, "My mission is to promote the benefits of healthy love and intimacy around the world.” Dr. Ava is the author of seven books and is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of relationships, intimacy and sexuality. She creates unique platforms to help people overcome sexual guilt and shame and to focus on the positive aspects of human sexuality. Her books are candles on the road to enlightenment with emphasis on finding love, rekindling passion and empowering your own sexuality so that you can have the best sex of your life. She also contributes to myriad of national and international periodicals on a regular basis. Establishing Loveology University, The College of Sensual Knowledge and Love Coaching in 2007 was Dr. Ava’s way to share the vast knowledge she has gained in the last twenty years offering students a wealth of information on love, romance, relationships, intimacy and sexuality they may otherwise not have access to. She has created dozens of courses for singles, couples, professionals and entrepreneurs who want to learn how to become a better lover or start their own Love Coaching business helping to improve the quality of other peoples love lives. As a contribution to Sexology, Dr. Ava invented the TriGasm Vibrator to stimulate of 3 points of pleasure simultaneously and empower female sexuality; which was manufactured and distributed by Doc Johnson Enterprises. She also brought Tantric Sex into the mainstream by creating a board game called the Tantric Game for Lovers, which is double-side board game that offers fun, enlightening and sensual exercises for beginners on one side and more advanced sexual Tantric techniques on the other side. The game was manufactured and distributed by Relationship Enrichment Systems. Dr. Ava continues to dedicate her life to helping individuals and couples by creating unique programs, courses and products to promote the benefits of healthy love, relationships, intimacy and sex around the globe on a daily basis to pursue quality and distinction in her career. But Dr. Ava insists that her best qualification for being an expert on love and sex is that she practices what she preaches; She is married to Peter Knecht, a renowned defense lawyer and they have been together for over 20 years.
Ava Cadell Success Stories
“Can you teach us something new and exciting to try in bed?”
Mac, 32 years old, and Wendy, 27 years old, were newlyweds, but they had been dating for three years and wanted to consummate their marriage with some new sexual techniques in hopes of expanding their sexual horizon. As a solution, I taught them how to give each other a TriGasm. For the woman first, she should lie back while her lover stimulates her clitoris orally until she has reached a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. (10 equals orgasm). Then change course and stimulate her vulva in small circles with the tongue or fingers for about 2 minutes. Return to the clitoris and orally increase her level of pleasure to a 9; almost to the point of no return. At this peak, insert a forefinger palm up into her vagina and find her G-spot, then tap, tap, tap it gently towards her navel. Simultaneously, stimulate her anus with a finger or vibrator to bring her to a mind-blowing, earth shattering, body-melting TriGasm. For the man, he should lie back while his lover lavishes the head of his penis orally until he reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. She should then use her mouth and tongue to stimulate his testicles for about 2 minutes. Return to the penis and orally increase his level of pleasure to a 9.5 (almost to the point of no return). Meanwhile fondle his testicles with one hand, while fingering his anus with the other.
“He wants to have a threesome with another woman.”
I met Lila, 22 years old, and Brian, 24 years old, who had been dating for six months when they came to me for advice about having a threesome. I could tell that Brian was more eager than Lila, so I asked her to tell Brian her concerns. She confessed her biggest fear was that he may prefer the other woman or could become addicted to threesomes. I asked Brian to share his pros and cons of having a threesome with Lila; he said that on the upside it could expand their sexual horizon and would even agree to have a threesome with two men if she wanted. He could find no downside to the fantasy other than if it were to cause Lila distress. I recommended they make his fantasy come true with the power of suggestion first, by pretending another woman was in bed with them. Lila would describe what she looks like, and then Brian can describe what she is doing to them both sexually in graphic detail. Afterward, if they may both really want to try it they can. However, sometimes the fantasy may be better than the reality.
“I want to last longer.”
Brad, 32 years old, came to see me because he wanted to learn how to maintain his erection for a longer duration of time. He worried he was no longer in his sexual prime and feared that with aging, his sexual endurance would weaken. I taught Brad to record the length of time he could exert himself sexually before reaching exhaustion; then try to increase this length (even if was with one minute intervals). I also gave him an exercise called Penis Lifts he could do on his own by placing a hand towel on the erect penis; then raising it up and down like a weight for 20 reps 3 times a day would strengthen the muscles of his penis. With his partner, Brad had more exciting exercises to do during intercourse; use the ratio of 3 shallow strokes to 1 deep thrust while keeping eyes open. Then, changing the rhythm to 6 shallow thrusts for each deep thrust, eyes open would allow him to prolong his ejaculation and stay erect longer.
“We’re never in the mood at the same time.”
High school sweethearts, and parents of two, Jay, 36 years old, wanted sex every day and Becca, 35 years old, was satisfied with once a week. I explained to them that there are several reasons why a couple may not be in the mood at the same time. It could be physical: too tired. It could be emotional: too stressed. It could also be just plain boredom: too predictable. As a solution to resolve the mismatched sex drive, I asked Becca to tell Jay what would help her to get into a sexy mood more often. She confessed she had some resentment towards him expecting her to turn into a sexpot from mommy mode without any romance or foreplay. Jay promised to give Becca some time to unwind, let her take a bath and then give her a massage, focusing on the non sexual parts of her body first. Becca promised to be more responsive and sexual as she was when they were first married. The power of communication and compromise worked its magic once again.
“Sex is painful with my husband”
Women with sexual dysfunctions
Emily, a woman age 37, married for three years suffering from vaginal pain during intercourse came to see me. She could not specify when the pain first started, but said that it was getting progressively worse. Emily has been examined by her gynecologist who found no physical evidence such as vaginitis, Vaginismus, vaginal agenesis or cysts to support her pain. His diagnosis was that Emily’s pain was psychological. I suggested that Emily bring her husband, Ryan to the session because I find it helpful to observe the verbal interaction and body language of couples I am counseling. Besides, her problem did affect their relationship and he should be part of the solution process. I discovered that they had a mismatched sex drive and that Emily felt like she was under constant pressure to have sex. Eventually, she just clamped up and so did her vaginal muscles as a form of defense. In my office, I encouraged Emily and Ryan to do some Sensate Focus exercises on each other’s hands and face. Emily was able to experience receiving touch without any sexual agenda. For their homework, I gave them other non-sexual exercises that would create deeper intimacy without focusing on the goal of intercourse or orgasm. It was up to Emily to let Ryan know when she was ready to have intercourse. A week later, Emily called to let me know that they were experiencing a deeper heart connection and to her delight, Ryan was being more romantic. During sexual intercourse, she did not experience the kind of pain she had before. On a scale of 1 to 10, her discomfort level was now between a 1 and a 2 instead of an 8 or higher.