Ava Cadell , Counselor/Therapist

Ava Cadell - Counselor/Therapist, Dating Coach, Psychologist, Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, Sex Therapist - West Hollywood, CA
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Counselor/Therapist



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9000 W. Sunset Blvd, Suite 1001
West Hollywood, CA
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Call Me 310-882-5438 ext. 900

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Is Porn Actually Good For Your Relationship?

[Editor's note: In addition to being a YourTango Expert, Dr. Ava Cadell is the leading love and sex therapist to Hollywood's biggest stars. Earlier this year, she joined the cast of Bravo's hit show 'LA Shrinks,' which follows ...

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Loveology University offers CEUs

Loveology University is proud to be a California Continuing Education Provider for the Board of Behavioral Sciences and the Board of Registered Nurses by affiliation with Dr. Ava Cadell. All of LU's courses offer credits for therapists and counselors who are members of the CA BBS and nurses who are members ...

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How To Use Forgiveness To Have Better Sex

Passion is at least 50 percent of a relationship, but as time passes, unfortunately, passion is the first thing that diminishes. Quite often, couples become friends, which is great, but where is the passion? It's gone! And the reason it's gone is because you don't continue to do the things you did ...

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10 Signs You Are Ready for Sex

Sex is a choice, which means that you can say, “NO”, “Not Now”, “Later” or “Yes”, but when in doubt, do not have sex until you feel confident about the 10 signs that you are ready, willing and able to have sex. 1. When you know the reason why you want to have sex 2. When you understand your body 3. When ...

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5 Steps to Self-Pleasuring

Whether you are single or in a relationship, make time for self-pleasure because it is part of self-love. Here are 5 steps to get you into a juicy state of mind. 1. Make sure you are in a comfortable and safe place where you can truly relax without any interruptions. 2. Breathe slowly and deeply as you ...

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Success Stories

“Sex is painful with my husband”

Emily, a woman age 37, married for three years suffering from vaginal pain during intercourse came to see me. She could not specify when the pain first started, but said that it was getting progressively worse. Emily has been examined by her gynecologist who found no physical evidence such as vaginitis, Vaginismus, vaginal agenesis or cysts to support her pain. His diagnosis was that Emily’s pain was psychological.

I suggested that Emily bring her husband, Ryan to the session because I find it helpful to observe the verbal interaction and body language of couples I am counseling. Besides, her problem did affect their relationship and he should be part of the solution process.

I discovered that they had a mismatched sex drive and that Emily felt like she was under constant pressure to have sex. Eventually, she just clamped up and so did her vaginal muscles as a form of defense.

In my office, I encouraged Emily and Ryan to do some Sensate Focus exercises on each other’s hands and face. Emily was able to experience receiving touch without any sexual agenda. For their homework, I gave them other non-sexual exercises that would create deeper intimacy without focusing on the goal of intercourse or orgasm. It was up to Emily to let Ryan know when she was ready to have intercourse.

A week later, Emily called to let me know that they were experiencing a deeper heart connection and to her delight, Ryan was being more romantic. During sexual intercourse, she did not experience the kind of pain she had before. On a scale of 1 to 10, her discomfort level was now between a 1 and a 2 instead of an 8 or higher.

“We’re never in the mood at the same time.”

High school sweethearts, and parents of two, Jay, 36 years old, wanted sex every day and Becca, 35 years old, was satisfied with once a week. I explained to them that there are several reasons why a couple may not be in the mood at the same time. It could be physical: too tired. It could be emotional: too stressed. It could also be just plain boredom: too predictable.

As a solution to resolve the mismatched sex drive, I asked Becca to tell Jay what would help her to get into a sexy mood more often. She confessed she had some resentment towards him expecting her to turn into a sexpot from mommy mode without any romance or foreplay. Jay promised to give Becca some time to unwind, let her take a bath and then give her a massage, focusing on the non sexual parts of her body first. Becca promised to be more responsive and sexual as she was when they were first married. The power of communication and compromise worked its magic once again.

“I want to last longer.”

Brad, 32 years old, came to see me because he wanted to learn how to maintain his erection for a longer duration of time. He worried he was no longer in his sexual prime and feared that with aging, his sexual endurance would weaken. I taught Brad to record the length of time he could exert himself sexually before reaching exhaustion; then try to increase this length (even if was with one minute intervals). I also gave him an exercise called Penis Lifts he could do on his own by placing a hand towel on the erect penis; then raising it up and down like a weight for 20 reps 3 times a day would strengthen the muscles of his penis. With his partner, Brad had more exciting exercises to do during intercourse; use the ratio of 3 shallow strokes to 1 deep thrust while keeping eyes open. Then, changing the rhythm to 6 shallow thrusts for each deep thrust, eyes open would allow him to prolong his ejaculation and stay erect longer.

“Can you teach us something new and exciting to try in bed?”

Mac, 32 years old, and Wendy, 27 years old, were newlyweds, but they had been dating for three years and wanted to consummate their marriage with some new sexual techniques in hopes of expanding their sexual horizon.

As a solution, I taught them how to give each other a TriGasm. For the woman first, she should lie back while her lover stimulates her clitoris orally until she has reached a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. (10 equals orgasm). Then change course and stimulate her vulva in small circles with the tongue or fingers for about 2 minutes. Return to the clitoris and orally increase her level of pleasure to a 9; almost to the point of no return.

At this peak, insert a forefinger palm up into her vagina and find her G-spot, then tap, tap, tap it gently towards her navel. Simultaneously, stimulate her anus with a finger or vibrator to bring her to a mind-blowing, earth shattering, body-melting TriGasm.

For the man, he should lie back while his lover lavishes the head of his penis orally until he reaches a level 8 on a pleasure scale of 1 to 10. She should then use her mouth and tongue to stimulate his testicles for about 2 minutes. Return to the penis and orally increase his level of pleasure to a 9.5 (almost to the point of no return). Meanwhile fondle his testicles with one hand, while fingering his anus with the other.

Main SpecialtyCouples/Marital Issues
Dating/Being Single Support
Sex Therapy
CredentialsEdD, PhD
Time in Practice10 years +
I practice inMultiple states/provinces, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseDating Coach
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Sex Coach
Sex Educator
Sex Therapist
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via Skype
Other, please inquire
I am fluent inEnglish
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12 Steps to Everlasting Love

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The Pocket Idiot's Guide to Oral Sex

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Passion Power

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Main SpecialtyCouples/Marital Issues
Dating/Being Single Support
Sex Therapy
CredentialsEdD, PhD
Time in Practice10 years +
I practice inMultiple states/provinces, please inquire
Additional ExpertiseDating Coach
Psychologist
Relationship Coach
Sex Coach
Sex Educator
Sex Therapist
I offer my servicesAt my office
Telephone
By Email
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
Via Skype
Other, please inquire
I am fluent inEnglish
Latest Expert Videos
My Store

12 Steps to Everlasting Love

Jumpstart your love life by taking the steps that will help you ...

USD $15.16

Buy online

The Pocket Idiot's Guide to Oral Sex

Step-by-step techniques for pleasing a partner.   Popular ...

Buy online

Passion Power

Passion Power is a personal fulfillment and sensual enrichment ...

USD $63.08

Buy online

Between the Sheets

Explore your sexuality! Between the Sheets gives answers to the ...

USD $14.44

Buy online