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What you are looking for is You!
What if you already had the key to unlock aspects of yourself that you never knew existed?

What if you've already done so in your life? What can you learn about who you already are from those precious moments you've experienced in the past? What if you knew that the voice in your head saying "Something was wrong with you!" is a lie?

Most of us have had some moment in our lives when we experienced a sense of liberation; of being in the zone; of feeling a connection to another person or to life. It may be while you are making love, or feeling that deep intimacy with another, when that sense of separation falls away and you feel completely free of your mind. 12 Ways to Love Yourself First

It may have been a time when you experienced a deeper sense of connection with nature, with God, with music, or to a piece of art, or to something that had great meaning for you. Perhaps you sensed a feeling of oneness, and experienced a loss of self-consciousness, or a total involvement in what you were doing while you were meditating of doing yoga. 

Or, you might have been "lost" in a sports activity such as running, basketball, or swimming; or been consumed by a creative activity like writing, painting, singing; or experienced a moment of deep gratitude or love. All of these moments, which regretfully last for all too short a period of time, reveal that there is another way of experiencing yourself and life. You may not have grasped the implications of these experiences, but you know that they were real. You know that you tasted something wonderful. Just Broke Up? How To Regain A Sense Of Self VIDEO

At these times you might recognize that you are more loving, confident, secure, content, free, at ease, and happy. What if this is really who you are? What if you were actually getting a glimpse into something quite extraordinary about yourself? What would that say about who you are? What would it say about how you can live your life? I suggest that you begin to consider this possibility by asking yourself these very questions.

If you take these questions seriously, they will provide a roadmap for your return home to your true self. I assure you that there is an unimaginable source of freedom, joy, and strength waiting on the other side of your doubts and fears, and it's waiting to be expressed. All your true self needs is for you to set it free. This part of yourself is always there, always available, and can be the source of wisdom for the most important choices and decisions you make in your life. 12 Steps To Sexify Yourself In 2012 EXPERT

Maybe you've never experienced moments of freedom or you feel that accessing this perspective is unattainable at this moment. Possibly you're hearing your ego object, "No, this can't work for me because there is something very wrong with me. I am too insecure, weak, fat, short, hopeless, unlovable, or (fill in the blank)." It could also be saying, "It can't be this easy or everyone would already be doing it."

What if you began to recognize and disregard these expressions of doubt and fear as the calling card of the ego? What if you began to choose that perspective you have already experienced? From there you can begin to focus on what you want from life, rather than on what's wrong, and your freedom from the doubt and fear will be yours for the taking. 

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Warren Berland, LCSW, Ph.D.

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http://www.outoftheboxforlife.com

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Dr. Larry Dossey author of Healing Words, writes, "If you feel as if your life should be fuller, richer, and more joyful, but do not know how to take the next step, read Out of the Box for Life." 

Location: New York (and Rhinebeck), NY
Credentials: ACSW, BCD, LCSW, PhD
Specialties: Anxiety Issues, Couples/Marital Issues, Spiritual/Religious
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