Your Job on Earth

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Your Job on Earth

Like me, many others have found it useful to ponder solve this riddle. The clues and hints are subtle, but they exist. The secret to your life’s purpose is hidden in your heart’s desire. Discover that, and you discover meaning, joy and purpose. There is a Plan, and you fit within it. No one has been omitted, every small link fits. As you discover your secret mission, and join the rhythm of the Intelligent Plan, life begins to run itself, doubt fades, and joy becomes a more frequent companion. Try listening to your heart, and to the obvious things about you, and you'll find it works.

“I give you something, you know not what, enrich it, you know not how, bring it back, you know not when. And remember, I shall be watching you.” Said the Sun to the newborn child.—P.L. Travers

Thus begins the adventure of finding your “job on Earth”.

As Marsha Sinetar says, in Ordinary People as Monks and Mystics: “To find in ourselves what makes life worth living is risky business, for it means that once we know it we must seek it. It also means that without it life will be valueless.”

Did you know that problems with compulsive eating, substance abuse, destructive addictive relationships, and obsessive behavior are most often misguided attempts to satisfy the heart's desire?

We are such amazing miracles of creation. Within each of us is a driving force, that will NOT give up and go away. We can attempt to drown it out with loud, raucous living, to anesthetize it with food, drink or drugs, to avoid it through some zealotry or other, to ignore it by working obsessively, to be too overwhelmed drama and agony to notice it; but as soon as the unavoidable quiet moment happens, there it is, urging us on. Often, people misread this uncomfortable inner restlessness and call it “fear” or “loneliness”, but it is only the call of the heart. Until we acknowledge it, it will not allow us to be at peace. Believe it or not, our hearts are filled with purpose and meaning, and will constantly press us to discover our true desire and act upon it.

 

A spectrum is a wide range of something, like the colors light creates when beamed through a prism. A rainbow. My rainbow, the one I want to share with all of you, is the warrior rainbow. It's the wide range of people who are willing to face their own fear and anger, to brave the terrors of the inner deep, to challenge the naysayers and the criticizers, because they know how important it is to be who they really are. It’s a broad spectrum of people, all colors, orientations, beliefs and experiences.

Nothing elaborate is required to take your place in the warrior rainbow. Just the courage to be you—to face your fears, to believe in yourself, to be willing to fight where you can (remember, a rainbow warrior always takes prudent risks—self-sacrifice is not encouraged.)

 

I find that many people who come to me for counseling are “autophobic”—afraid of themselves. They are afraid of feeling emotion, afraid of being forced to be alone with themselves, afraid to find out what is actually inside them. It actually comes down to fearing the power within. We can run very fast, but we can’t escape who we are.

This article was originally published at Tina B. Tessina. Reprinted with permission.
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