Dating Dos & Don'ts For Seniors

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Dating Dos & Don'ts For Seniors
Including specific dos and dont's if you're out there looking!

Dating Don'ts

1. Don't assume your date is exclusive with you. If you've never talked about it, you don't know that's how he or she feels.

 

2. Don't be afraid of silence. Occasional silences allow a conversation to feel natural and unforced.

3. Don't make sex the objective. Good reasons for going slowly into sexual activity include: reducing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases and  AIDS; avoiding the awkwardness of intimacy with a total stranger; averting codependent obsession; and having sex to look forward to. If and when sex is right, it will happen — there's no advantage in rushing.

4. Don't date beyond your budget. It doesn't impress your date if, in the long run, you have to make an embarrassing confession, and "buying" someone's company doesn't work. A wide disparity in income calls for frank discussion early on. If your date spends a lot on you, reciprocating with a home-cooked meal, a hand-made gift, or needed repair work will even thetally.

5. Don't get too self-conscious. The media focus on youth and fitness these days can make anyone feel insecure and unattractive. Look your best, then forget about it. Instead of worrying what your date thinks of you, focus on what you think of your date.

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