Motivation and How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)

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Motivation and How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)
Dr. Romance helps you to realize the way towards your goals with positive motivation vs. negative.

If you find yourself around someone who takes command and tells you what you should be doing, or comments unasked about how you are doing things wrong, or otherwise appoints him/herself as the boss in your life, you may find your newly-created motivation flagging. Remember to fire them as your boss. It’s YOUR life, and you are doing whatever you are doing because you WANT to. You need to give no better reason to anyone but yourself.

Once you have fired this self-appointed boss, then you may need to remind yourself of how much you have accomplished without that kind of help. Celebrate your independence, your spirit, your willingness to be responsible for yourself.

It is also possible to set up informative books, articles, television authorities, gurus, etc. up as your boss—in which case, you will again find your motivation flagging. These informational aids can be useful, but only if your keep them in perspective.

Remember, the boss gets information about how to run things, gets educated, goes for help when necessary, BUT the boss is still in charge. The information is there for your use, but no expert, (no, not even a therapist) can know if the information is right for you.

If you remember who the boss is, then you will use the information wisely and judiciously, rejecting whatever there is that does not suit your style or personality. You will use it to support and further your goals, and to aid in the celebration of your accomplishments.

Whenever you find your motivation flagging, look around for how you are doing at being your boss. Are you using a motivational, supportive style? Have you let someone else take over your authority? Is there some appreciation you need?

Take a few minutes with yourself every day just for appreciation. It’s easy, fun, and very effective. Imagine living every day energized and motivated!!
 

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