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Looking For Love After Divorce?
Don't Repeat Past Mistakes. Follow These Three Tips

Looking for love after divorce? Here are three tips to help as you begin dating after your divorce.

1. Be suspicious if it all seems “too good to be true” – it probably is.
If your subconscious, neurotic needs are running the show, it’s fabulous at first and then horrible. If your common sense is running it, it starts out tentative, and grows stronger when you meet the right person.  If your friends are worried about this relationship, listen to them. They could be wrong, but what if they’re right? You need to find out.

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2. You shouldn’t feel like you always know what to do. You and this new person are doing a new thing.
Seek to work as a team to figure it out as you go along.  If either one of you is in charge, there’s probably a problem. If you’re working together, even though it’s not too smooth, it’s probably going OK.

3. Don’t keep secrets. 
Talk about past relationship issues, and be willing to share your emotions and reactions with each other.  etting to know each other is the key to developing a working relationship. Don’t follow some set of mental rules – they’re always a trap from your childhood – don’t repeat your early family. That style doesn’t suit who you are as an adult. Instead, seek to learn something new, about yourself and about each other. If you’re afraid that telling the truth  will upset your partner, you need to test that right away, to find out if you can get through the problem. Screwing things up is the way to find out if you can fix them together.

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