Intuition or Inner Knowing

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Intuition or Inner Knowing
Intuition is not as magical or mysterious as it sounds.

With my therapy clients, I often trust my intuition about what they’re thinking, but I am also aware I'm getting clues or “vibes” from them, which my subconscious is interpreting—and it's pretty accurate. Clients are often astounded that I seem to know what they're thinking, but it’s not  magic—it’s just one more amazing emotional/psychological/mental skill we all have, that my training and experience have fine tuned. The mind, if we relax and trust it, truly has some miraculous abilities.

 

Intuitive expertise becomes really valuable when you’re looking for love. Use your intuition to tell if someone is lying—simply go slowly and check the person out as you go along. If you become aware that you are uncomfortable or afraid in someone’s presence, that’s your intuitive early warning system—pay very close attention and find out what is causing your negative reaction. If you take the time to get to know a new potential date, you’ll have a chance to check out the validity of both positive and negative intuition,.  By keeping the relationship in the “friends” category, you will know more about the person before taking risks. If you feel pressured to go faster, see this as a warning. Begin getting to know a new person in group settings. By meeting people in safe venues and groups, you automatically begin as friends, and know more about your date before you begin dating. You also get the benefit of your other friends’ reactions to your potential date—pay attention to their feedback, they could be right. Don't let attraction overrule your common sense. Your libido can't tell an ax murderer from a saint; but your intuition, backed up by rational thougt, can. Look for integrity  make sure your date walks his or her talk. Anyone can talk big. Actually, some of the best people “don't” present themselves well. Don't overlook someone who is not gorgeous, charming and glib, but has all the qualities you really value.

Your intuition by itself may not be magic, but when you use it wisely, it can help make your dreams come true. (From It Ends with You) © 2005 Tina B. Tessina

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