How to Stretch Time

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 How to Stretch Time
Stretching time is not difficult if you have the prerequisites: self-awareness, a sense of purpose,

Acting thoughtfully rather than impulsively means that your actions are effective, and therefore more time saving.

Because time is valuable, learn to budget it the way you budget your money. In counseling my clients, I have found that putting yourself on a “time diet” works wonders. Be wary of “time sinks”—TV, computers, email, etc. and phone conversations with people who talk a lot to no purpose. Learn to say “no” to non-essential time wasters, so you can spend more time doing those things important to you. Knowing how to balance and  to prioritize, cooperate and schedule your time so that everything will have a place is the key. Individuals and couples need to prioritize, cooperate and schedule their time so that everything will have a place. Becoming “time aware” is the best way to achieve balance. Achieving balance between work and the rest of your life is the key to avoiding burnout. You'll be much better at doing this if you are self_aware, think through your options, schedule in personal as well as work time, and learn to be flexible.

 

Sometimes, having duplicate tools and supplies saves time—for example, having scissors, makeup, nail files, etc in several places in the house, so they're where you need them when you want them, or if you travel a lot, as I do, having your travel kit permanently available, with items you need, and keep it only for travel. I have a separate ‘kit’ for several activities: one for the gym, one for the pool, one for my music lessons, one for church choir. When I come home from a trip or a workout, I replenish the kit so it’s ready for the next time. For example, when I come home from the pool, I take out the wet towels, put in dry ones—and I’m ready to go next time.

Playful Approach:

 

A playful approach may not specifically stretch time, but it does make you feel that the time spent is worth it. One way to enjoy the time you have, and feel more satisfied, is to remember that life is not supposed to be all seriousness __ to really feel that life is worth living, we all need to have some fun. Yes, fun.  You remember fun!   Pleasure, humor, leisure activities, and silliness are ways we recharge, renew our energy, restore our hope and positive outlook, and connect with others.

Fun does not depend on spending money or going to extremes.  It does not depend on a particular  setting, companion, or activity, and it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Having fun is an internal process. You can have fun sitting still and thinking about interesting or enjoyable things, or working in your garden, petting the cat, talking quietly with one friend, or playing cards with a few. Singing, dancing, playing a sport and drawing a picture are fun pastimes for some people. If you’re like me, playing with your brain is fun. Fun creates a deep internal connection, too. Through play we re_connect with our hearts, our childlike selves, and the intuitive, spontaneous part of our psyches.

 

This article was originally published at Tina B. Tessina. Reprinted with permission.
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