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Tips To Recognize If Your Partner Is Emotionally Abusive


What if you have children with this person? So, now you're a mom dealing with an emotional toddler in a grownup body. The only thing you can do is get tough. You and your children are in danger.

You're taking the easy way out and making excuses so you won't have to handle this problem, which will make the problem worse. You need to put your foot down right now. Find friends or family you can stay with, or locate a woman's shelter. Make sure a friend or family member is available immediately if you need help, then tell him that you'll leave him if he doesn't go to AA and to an anger management group. If you allow him to continue this behavior, you risk losing your children. When he gets angry and acts out, it is harmful not only to you but also to your children.

Child Protective Services can come in an take them if you won't protect them from his abuse. To develop a conscience in people with these problems, behavioral training is necessary. Essentially, you treat them as children, regulate all their behavior with reward and punishment, and force them to use self-control to behave within the rules. Then, you teach them about ethics and morality, and give them exercises to develop these capabilities.

Here are tips to consider when you're in a relationship with a partner who is a narcissist.

1. Take care of yourself.
That is, think before you do anything about whether it will be a good move for you or not.

2: Don't participate if it's not working for you.
That is, if you're at a party, and being ignored, just leave quietly. He'll get the message. If you're at home, and not being treated well, go to another room, go out, or phone a friend. Don't just sit around and take it.

3. Find some things to do that are happy and healthy for you.
Fill up your own time and don't waste it on people who don't really care. Start taking responsibility for making yourself happy, don't rely on him, and you'll feel more grown up, less adolescent. It's a learning process, so give yourself some time.

There is always a way out of an abusive relationship if it's too much to handle.

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