Dr. Romance Video: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage?

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Dr. Romance Video: How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage?
It is easy to reboot your sex life at any age, according to marriage and family therapist Dr.Romance

Dr. Romance is delighted to be interviewed by Mind Your Body TV via Huffington Post:  How Can You Improve Your Sex Life In Marriage?

 

After years together, is there a lack of sex in your marriage? Is this negatively impacting your relationship? Have no fear -- it is easy to reboot your sex life at any age, according to marriage and family therapist Dr. Tina Tessina. Dr. Tessina recommends that couples follow five easy steps to get things going again. “First of all, you have to find out what’s going on,” said Dr. Tessina on Mind Your Body TV. “Sex is communication, and if the rest of the communication falls apart in your relationship, you won’t be able to get close together to have sex.” To find out the rest of Dr. Tessina’s tips on how to improve your sex life in marriage, watch the clip

Dr. Romance’s 4 Tips on Jump-Starting Your Sex Life

 

Has your sex life gone to sleep? No matter what the old wives’ tales say about it, there’s no reason not to have sex in long-term relationships. Sex not only will keep your love energized, it’s also fun exercise, a great stress-releaser, and aerobic: it raises your heart rate and your respiration -- and you don't even notice you're working hard. Here’s how to make it easy and fun:

1. Relax. Relaxing allows you to be more aware of your sexual energy, enhances sexual feelings, and frees you up to respond sexually. Allow time for morning sex when you are still relaxed from sleep, or after a nap.

2. Lighten Up Because of media influence, most couples have an exaggerated, stressful image of sex. To have more fun, focus on having fun, instead of meeting a goal. Some sex encounters go well, some don't, so have a sense of humor. Spend more time giggling, talking and being silly and less time under pressure. A lighter attitude makes sex more fun.

3. Communicate The best beginning for a lovely sexual encounter is a good, honest and open conversation. When you were new lovers, you talked and sex was easy. Frequently make time to "catch up" with each other over an unhurried dinner or breakfast. Express your hopes and dreams, clear the air, and you can both relax. From there, it's not such a long distance into the bedroom.

4. Be Flexible Physical agility can be helpful, but emotional flexibility will really improve your sex life. The longer you and your partner are together, the more you need options.

Here’s a menu:

*Quickies: brief sexual encounters that are great fun when you're pressed for time. Morning heavy petting can make the whole day more exciting.

*Sneaky Sex: Whispery sex behind locked doors while the children (or grandchildren) are watching TV is great fun, or sneak lovemaking in your childhood bedroom while visiting your parents.

* Romantic Sex: Pull out all the stops: candlelight, dinner, dancing, dressing up, perhaps a lovely hotel room, or a romantic dinner for two at home. It's great for celebrations, or anytime you need a boost.

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