Dr. Romance: 3 Ways To Save A Struggling Marriage

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Dr. Romance: 3 Ways To Save A Struggling Marriage
Three tips to getting your marriage back on track!

Every relationship has its ups and downs. Is your marriage struggling right now? If you're trying to get it back on track, here are tips to help.

1. Don't Hold A Grudge
Talk about what's bothering you in a rational way. Ask clearly for what you want, and let your partner know why it's important to you. If you can't find a way to agree, go for a counseling session. Resentment will destroy your marriage;however, for the price of one session and before the problem gets too large, you can save it.

2. Show your appreciation.
Let your partner know you appreciate what he or she does, personality traits, (i.e., his or her sense of humor, generosity, practicality, hard work) and companionship. The more you praise what you like, the more you'll get of it. We all want to be appreciated. Celebration plus appreciation equals motivation. 

3. Make time for intimacy.
Regard your face-to-face time as sacred (it is and it will bless your marriage). Take time to listen to each other. Touch as often as possible (put your hand on your spouse's leg while driving; give him or her a little squeeze now and then, hug and kiss each other). Create a cuddling space in front of the television, on the porch swing, in your bedroom, and use it. 

While these three things aren't all you need to do to create a working, loving partnership, they'll set the tone and create an atmosphere where your relationship can thrive. They're like the water, sun and fertilizer to a plant—the natural necessities of married life.

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