Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Alone On Valentines Day?

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Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Alone On Valentines Day?
Having a plan that makes your happy is the best way to fend off the Valentine's Day blues.

Dr Romance’s Happiness Tips Alone on Valentine’s Day?

 

There's no need to mope around.  Having a plan that makes you happy is the best way to fend off the blues.

Gather your best friends around you and make some special plans to have a wonderful day.

Send valentines or personal notes to everyone who means a lot to you.

Or, create and celebrate Volunteer Day and use your energy and resources on behalf of people who need your help.

Volunteer to tutor students, help at a homeless shelter, or teach someone to read through a Literacy Program.

Get together with friends or family, or go skiing or join a theater production!

Make your Valentine's Day a spiritual growth time, attending a ritual or workshop or gathering with close friends instead of being out with the crowds.

If you are clear about what will make the day special for you, and focus on that instead of what's not happening, you'll feel better about yourself and you won't have any reason to pity yourself.

Here are some Do's and Don’ts

DO: think about Valentine's Day in advance -- ask friends to join you, or find an activity that is meaningful to you.

DON'T: allow the occasion to sneak up on you

DO: Think about what will create the most meaningful experience for you.

DON'T: focus on what everyone else might be doing.

DO: consider doing something different than usual -- this is a great time to try something new

DON'T: isolate -- unless you do it as a meditative experience.

DO: Like the LoveFilter facebook page "14 Days of Love for the Single Soul". You'll learn a lot!

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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