Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: 11 Things Married Women Want

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Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: 11 Things Married Women Want
For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?" Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want

For you men who ask, "What Do Women Want?"  Here are Dr. Romance's 11 Things Married Women Want:

 

Women value intimacy, safety for themselves and their children, and emotional connection. Therefore, they long for the following qualities in a man:

1. Good Judgment Good judgment is important because it means she can count on this man to help her make good decisions. He will be balanced and think clearly about whatever needs to be done. When she knows her partner has good judgment, she can relax and trust him to do the right thing. If he can trust her, too, then both have the ideal conditions for a working partnership.

 

2. Intelligence Intelligence is important only to a point. There are various kinds of intelligence, and sometimes those who have a lot of academic credits are somewhat lacking in the good judgment we just discussed. She wants someone smart enough to work well with her, and to handle what life hands you as a couple, but academic learning may not be the only way to tell. Intelligence, properly used, may help your partner to succeed in the world, and to make a better career. He may use his intelligence to succeed as a business owner, and of course, there’s the genetic heritage for your children.

3. Honest and Reliable Someone who keeps his promises, takes responsibility, and won’t do things behind her back (unless it’s to buy her a surprise for hwe birthday) Reliability, responsibility and accountability will give him the strength of character he needs to keep his marriage vows and promises. Dependability and Integrity are very valuable in a marriage, because they mean the relationship will be based on honesty and trust. If there’s a problem that makes him dissatisfied in the relationship, he’ll be honest enough to tell her, and not just look for instant gratification outside the marriage.

 

4. Affection (separate from sex) Affection is important to women, and often somewhat difficult for men. If a man has trouble showing affection, how will he be as a father? If he equates affection with sex, and cannot be affectionate without expecting sex, she might feel very dissatisfied in the marriage. Affection and kindness are the lubrication of a relationship. Being able to express positive feelings toward each other helps you get past awkward moments, recover from spats, and reassure each other that your love is still strong. It’s also a vital characteristic for both parents to be able to express to their children. Children raised in a combination of affection and discipline grow up secure and with a strong and balanced sense of self.

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