Dr. Romance On Emotional Hygiene

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Dr. Romance On Emotional Hygiene
5 recommendations for daily emotional hygiene.

Dr. Romance writes: A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post-traumatic stress reactions—bad dreams, flashbacks and upset after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings and let them out before the stress reactions subsided.

I often help my clients do this too, not only with PTSD from shocking or painful experiences, but also with grief and old memories. Life is frequently not easy and we often encounter problems and difficulties that require us to pay attention to our own feelings.

Relationships, whether with family, spouses and partners, friends or even colleagues, can create emotional fallout that we need to take care of. In addition, if we want to maintain emotional health and balance, create as much happiness as possible in life and maintain what the 12 step programs call serenity or inner peace, our emotions require care.

Physical and Emotional Hygiene

I call this ongoing, routine care of feelings, emotional hygiene. Most of us learned things about bodily hygiene and health in school and at home from our parents: wash behind your ears, brush and floss your teeth, wash your body and your hair on a regular basis; as well as washing your hands frequently to minimize your exposure to viruses and germs. Eating well, sleeping and exercising can be considered part of hygiene—maintaining good health. To do this well, you do these healthy things on a regular basis. Once in a while isn’t effective for creating good health.

Emotional hygiene works in a similar way. Most of my clients are surprised to learn that their emotions need daily care to maintain optimum balance. Just as consistent showering, hand-washing and tooth-brushing can help you maintain physical health and well-being and reduce your time in the doctor and dentist’s office, emotional hygiene can help you maintain emotional well-being and reduce the need for therapy, prescriptions and stress-related problems.

Here are some recommendations for daily emotional hygiene:

1. Meet Yourself.

Whether you realize it or not, the relationship you have with yourself sets the pattern for how you connect with others. By developing a nurturing way to relate to yourself, you create a personal experience of both giving and receiving friendship. Keep Reading...

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