3 Rules For 'Dropping A Bomb' On Your Significant Other

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3 Rules For 'Dropping A Bomb' On Your Significant Other [EXPERT]
Do you have something important to say?

3. Stay open to possibility. You think you want an open relationship, but maybe you'd be satisfied with more travel, adventure and independence in your current partnership. You think you want to sell the joint-business, but maybe you simply need to re-evaluate your roles and priorities, reaffirm your mission, or hire a competent assistant! Whatever it is that's urging you to drop a monster bomb, there's almost always an alternative or cooperative solution that might keep your partnership alive. Stay open, playful and creative because a closed mind is an uncooperative mind.

Whether what side you are on, remember that your first reaction to dramatic upheaval is generally your most explosive, your most childlike, and your most hurtful. Therefore hit pause, curl up and cool down. Then respond with as much compassion as you can muster. What Do Women Want?

Now, what if you're on the other side of the explosion  and you're the one receiving the bomb? Head over to Alexandra Franzen’s blog to find communication tips for those times when you're the one getting told a big announcement. How To Make Long-Distance Love Work

Learn more about handling relationships and conflict: How To Be a Couple and Still Be Free.

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