Dear Dr. Romance: Should a Mother Push Her Daughter to Contact He

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Dear Dr. Romance: Should a Mother Push Her Daughter to Contact He
If the child has not had a real relationship with her father, should a mother keep pushing?

* Avoid Right/wrong Discussions: Arguing about who is right or wrong will not solve anything. Instead, work on understanding what is important to each of you, then finding a way to incorporate that and resolve your differences. Focus on the problem only long enough to understand what it is, then switch the focus of your discussion to what will work, and what will solve the problem that both of you can live with your mutual decision.

 

* While the kids are small, still do some family activities with all of you together. 

* Introduce new partners slowly and very cautiously, hopefully time will pass before you do this. Don’t spring a new partner on your spouse or your children. Don’t say “This is your new Stepmother (Stepfather).” That will set you up for disaster.

 

The Ten Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make After Forty will show you how to reorganize your life as your daughter matures.

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