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Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend? [EXPERT]

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Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend? [EXPERT]
What men can learn from the Tiger Woods fiasco about respecting their partners

Dear Dr. Romance:

I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. Me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. And me and the friend have talked about a few times what it would be like if we went out and know it would be good because we have similar interests and sense of humor and trust each other so much. But I dont what to do, so a little advice will help

 

Dr. Romance Replies:

Haven't you learned anything from Tiger Woods or the many other fiascos of men who don't respect their relationships? You're about to create a disaster here. And I really don't understand what her best friend is thinking either. I'm glad she's not my best friend. She's more like a worst enemy.

Either break up with your girlfriend and let some time pass before dating her friend, or just concentrate on fixing the relationship you've got. If you just act on your impulse, you'll ruin several friendships and create a big problem for yourself. Use your brain. "Stop Reacting and Start Relating" will give you some help in fixing your present relationship, if you should decide to do the right thing. Lovestyles: How to Celebrate Your Differences will help you understand what it takes to get what you want from a relationship.

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