Dear Dr. Romance: She Can't Forgive The Hurt I Caused

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Dear Dr. Romance: She Can't Forgive The Hurt I Caused
If you can't manage your own moods, emotions and reactions, your wife will never reconcile with you.

"Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane?" "Fair Fight Guidelines" and "How Not to Fight" will help you understand your anger and what to do about it.  "How to Be Irresistible to Your Mate" will give you what you need to try and repair things with your wife.  Couples counselors differ in expertise. I am not familiar with the one you're seeing, but if that counselor hasn't insisted you get help for your anger and mood swings, then it's not the right counselor for you. You need individual counseling.  Use the "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely" to find a counselor who will be very tough and interactive if you want rapid change. The counselor should give you homework. If you fix this quickly, you might have a chance to save your marriage. You may have waited too long, but at least you can fix the problem so your anger doesn't destroy your next relationship.

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