Dear Dr Romance: My Girlfriend Doesn't Like Phone Sex

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Dear Dr Romance: My Girlfriend Doesn't Like Phone Sex
You can't have phone sex if your partner doesn't like it, and you can't force a partner to like it.

Dear Dr. Romance:

My girlfriend does not like phone sex. When ever I bring up the topic, she is always mad at me.  I don't know; maybe it's the way her ex treated her. Please help.

Dear Reader:

You can't have phone sex with your girl if she doesn't like it, and you can't force her to like it. Instead, you have to make it attractive to her. So, turn on your charm and find out how she feels about it instead of just trying to talk her into it. If it is about the way her ex treated her, you need to listen to her and let her tell you about it. "Getting to Yes" helps you understand how to talk to her about phone sex and sex in general. The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again will show you how to develop a mutually satisfying relationship. Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.

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