Dear Dr. Romance: I Love Him to Death But Can't Find a Solution

By Dr. Tina Tessina. Posted on Jun 21st 2012.

How to stand up for yourself and not accept name-calling and abuse

Dear Reader:

I'm not sure why you're with such an abusive guy. You need to learn to stand up for yourself, and not accept name-calling and abuse from him. You may have to break off the relationship again and then give him conditions for getting back together. He thinks it's OK to control you, and he won't listen to you tell him it's not, so you have to act on it. You will get treated in the way you accept. If he starts yelling, calling you names, and being abusive, leave. Even if it's nighttime, in a restaurant or in front of friends, just get up silently and leave. Grow up and get in control of your own behavior. Read "Setting Boundaries and Saying No" and get a copy of my book, Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage to understand more about how not to fight. You deserve a much better relationship than this jerk can give you.

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