How Your Sexuality Can Affect Your Responsibilites

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How Your Sexuality Can Affect Your Responsibilites
Dr. Romance answers questions about a readers sexuality and responsibility.

Dear Dr. Romance:

I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help?

Dear Reader:

Your girlfriend is right to want you to know what you want before she marries you. You may be gay or bisexual, but now is the time to figure out what you want. If you can let go of same-sex dreams, and make a serious commitment to her, then it could be the right thing to do. But, making the commitment when you don't mean it will only be hurtful to everyone concerned. Of course, if she keeps the baby, you have a responsibility to care for your child, emotionally and financially, no matter what you decide about your sexuality. "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely" will help you find a good therapist, which is a very good idea for you as an individual and for both of you as a couple. You also need to start taking responsibility for having protected sex, so you don't continue to make such big mistakes.

Free tips and courses to help you improve your relationships at LoveForever.com

Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences is full of exercises which will help you and your girlfriend talk honestly about what each of you wants and whether a relationship is possible.

More from YourTango: Accepting Bisexuality: Attraction Across Gender Lines

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