Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people

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Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people
A reader thanks Dr. Romance for the positive motivation.

Dear Dr. Romance:

I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse.

I read "Motivation and How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and now I'm sorted out.

I realised I'd been applying the same rules to me that my boss applies to everyone. We both see the world of business the same way but you helped me see that way was wrong. Another difference is I've always known I make a lousy boss. He doesn't.

The list of bad boss features is 100% him. Every detail is spot on.

I can now free myself of this constant feeling of not getting it right and can relax back into the good salesman I've always been. And enjoy helping people.

Thanks again for writing and posting the article. Hope you have as good a day as you've given me.

Dear Reader:

Thanks for letting me know the article was helpful. I'm happy to be of help anytime.  "Attitude: From Negative to Positive" might also be useful for you, and it Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction will help you understand how to motivate yourself on a deeper level.


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