Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Sure He's Not Looking for a Visa

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Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Sure He's Not Looking for a Visa

Dear Dr. Romance:

I met a cute guy that's a foreigner in the USA from Russia. So how do I make sure he's not looking for a visa green card marriage?

Dear Reader:

Whether or not he wants a green card isn't the real question. The real question is, does he have good character, and does he love you, and do you love him? Take your time to get to know him, and find out what makes him tick. Does he have a job here? How is he making a living? Make sure he has no other attachments. Get to know his friends, and let your friends meet him -- you'll learn a lot through other people's eyes. Don't listen to his words, pay attention to his actions. Don't get ahead of the relationship. "Stupid Cupid" will help you figure out whether you two are ready to be serious. 

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